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Question: Sense of entitlement from 27 year old son,how does a father who has been accused of emotional abuse each time he addresses the entitlement handle this?
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Detailed Answer:
Hello, and thanks very much for your question.
When faced with a son who has a sense of entitlement and who accuses you of emotional abuse regularly, there are a couple strategies I tell my clients to use.
First, don't back down. If you have an issue with you son in the present, remind him that the past has very little to do with it. Past emotional abuse, even if it was real (which it was probably not), should not affect the present moment and the present conflict. Focus on the present.
Second, sometimes it is best to avoid the conflict and have a proxy work for you. Maybe your wife or another family member who the son does not have as much as a grievance with. Sometimes using a proxy with your same goals but whom the son trusts is a useful strategy.
In the future, for continuity of care, I encourage you to contact me at my private link below. After you ask a direct question it would be my pleasure to be your dedicated personal physician on this website. My name is Dr. Sheppe, and I am an XXXXXXX doctor working in New York City at NewYork-Presbyterian Hospital, ranked #1 for Psychiatry in the United States (tinyurl.com/psyrank). For a personalized comprehensive evaluation, treatment recommendations, and individual therapy, ask me at HealthCareMagic at this private link: tinyurl.com/DrSheppeAnswers
Consultation
Detailed Answer:
Hello, and thanks very much for your question.
When faced with a son who has a sense of entitlement and who accuses you of emotional abuse regularly, there are a couple strategies I tell my clients to use.
First, don't back down. If you have an issue with you son in the present, remind him that the past has very little to do with it. Past emotional abuse, even if it was real (which it was probably not), should not affect the present moment and the present conflict. Focus on the present.
Second, sometimes it is best to avoid the conflict and have a proxy work for you. Maybe your wife or another family member who the son does not have as much as a grievance with. Sometimes using a proxy with your same goals but whom the son trusts is a useful strategy.
In the future, for continuity of care, I encourage you to contact me at my private link below. After you ask a direct question it would be my pleasure to be your dedicated personal physician on this website. My name is Dr. Sheppe, and I am an XXXXXXX doctor working in New York City at NewYork-Presbyterian Hospital, ranked #1 for Psychiatry in the United States (tinyurl.com/psyrank). For a personalized comprehensive evaluation, treatment recommendations, and individual therapy, ask me at HealthCareMagic at this private link: tinyurl.com/DrSheppeAnswers
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