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Suggest Treatment For Obsessive Compulsive Disorder

Posted on Mon, 5 May 2014

Question: Married 26 years . Husband found on craigslist m4m and phone calls from men on a sex line. Seen a counselor since then I found he was as the counselor say a naracist and best convincing lier. So gave the marriage 1 more trial year . I found he was getting sex from a random guy on craigslist. He was just a receiver so Husband says that he found it disgusting , but still drawn for more. I am 60yrs no retirement left. Very poor health. This is all very shocking for a small town Christian women. He since is getting private counseling in hopes I stay. I found he is now Shaving his body even though he is limited to body hair. QUESTION: I believe he is more than curious and how can I ever know counselor can change anything. He has always been dishonest 26 years. Help I'm stuck holding a Tiger by The Tail. Thank you. Does it sound he is bi.

Answered by Dr. Dr.Saatiish Jhuntrraa (33 minutes later)

Brief Answer: Please don't expect your husband will change Detailed Answer: Hello Thanks for choosing www.healthcaremagic.com Sexual orientation ( means romantic attraction towards a person) can't change at this age, it has to be present since early adolescence. It seems he managed to hide for such a long time that he feels attraction for men. Since you didn't suspect earlier, I can conclude your sex life was normal . It clearly means he is bisexual in orientation by nature, was hiding his attraction to men till now ,which has come to the fore now. His chronic habit of telling lies could be due to this. so there is very less chance he will change. May be he has problem in erection so become a passiveartner. If anyone wants to find the truth, he needs to be assured that he will not be ridiculed . Believe me, there are millions of such men in the world. Youhave to take a final call. If everything else is normal, why spend the rest of life alone? Lonliness is a big curse . Dr Saatiish Jhuntrraa

Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Yogesh D

Follow up: Dr. Dr.Saatiish Jhuntrraa (24 minutes later)

I know he has always preferred oral sex and since he was caught on net n many meetings but he said he never went to any until lately. He found it discusting but stilll drawn by it all. he is very sly and I am broken . He said he can get over it and wants me to stay. My gut says run but where? Once crossed over to physical acts and admits he has a problem to work on, then do they ever go straight n stay?

Answered by Dr. Dr.Saatiish Jhuntrraa (18 minutes later)

Brief Answer: the chances of getting straight are slim Detailed Answer: Hello We can look at the situation from two angles. One ,we assume he is telling the truth that m2 m was disgusting, still he couldn't get out of it. It would imply it is Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, the thoughts of attraction to men is disturbing and distressing, this is a good news because this is eminently treatable. Such people approach for help by themselves. The other is, he is telling a lie and m2 m is giving pleasure. Then we should not expect he will leave it, until provided with an alternative source of pleasure. I think, if your sex life improves and enjoyable, HE MIGHT become straight ,but the chances are slim only Dr Saatiish Jhuntrraa

Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Yogesh D

Follow up: Dr. Dr.Saatiish Jhuntrraa (4 minutes later)

Just thankyou my instincts are right also. I appreciate your info

Answered by Dr. Dr.Saatiish Jhuntrraa (7 minutes later)

Brief Answer: you are welcome Detailed Answer: Hello You are welcome . I glad to be of some help.Any more quarries any time in future are welcome. Dr Saatiish Jhuntrraa

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Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Yogesh D