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Posted on Mon, 15 Sep 2014
Question: My boyfriend has erectile dysfunction and I tried to help by going to a sex therapist and now he is not speaking to me. Why is he not speaking to me?
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Answered by Dr. Divakara (52 minutes later)
Brief Answer:
He is feeling low

Detailed Answer:
Hi XXXXXXX

Thanks for posting your query .

Let me tell you one thing . Man takes his pride in his penis size and his ability to perform in sex . Let us try to analyse what is going through his mind .

He is depressed from the moment he realized that he is not able to perform well in sex . He is shattered and can't express it with any his friends or family ( because he considers it as a matter of shame ) . He is worried that whether this problem is a short term or a permanent one . He feels he may lose you as he may never satisfy you .

With all these things going on in his mind , you took him to a therapist . It might be that he was not yet prepared mentally to open up about his Erectile problem with an other person other than you ( I am not sure whether he was ready to open up with you ) . So that consultation made him look like a loser and he wants to avoid you as you know about his condition .

I advise you just leave him by himself for 2-3 days and after that talk to him like nothing happened . Once he starts feeling comfortable you can assure him that he means a lot to you and sex is just a small part of life and you love him for what ever he is ...
Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Raju A.T
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Follow up: Dr. Divakara (54 minutes later)
I went to the sex therapist without asking his permission first. I said I was sorry a couple of months ago and please would he forgive me? He said it "was okay" but he had to lie down as he was not feeling well and he would text me later, which was a few weeks ago. How can I sort this out? I was only trying to help him. He is so important to me.
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Answered by Dr. Divakara (17 minutes later)
Brief Answer:
Be in contact with him

Detailed Answer:
Hi

First of all try to establish a social contact with him . Just send him text message in casual way . Don't keep apologizing , it will remind him of his problem .

Just chat casually and talk about general topics . He may resist you but you keep trying . But don't pressurize him too much . If he is not responding to 4-5 text message stop it for the day , send again the next day .

Try to call him once in 3-4 days . If he cuts your call try again once but don't keep on calling .

Just keep doing this and he shall realize that you care for him .
Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Raju A.T
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Suggest Treatment For Erectile Dysfunction

Brief Answer: He is feeling low Detailed Answer: Hi XXXXXXX Thanks for posting your query . Let me tell you one thing . Man takes his pride in his penis size and his ability to perform in sex . Let us try to analyse what is going through his mind . He is depressed from the moment he realized that he is not able to perform well in sex . He is shattered and can't express it with any his friends or family ( because he considers it as a matter of shame ) . He is worried that whether this problem is a short term or a permanent one . He feels he may lose you as he may never satisfy you . With all these things going on in his mind , you took him to a therapist . It might be that he was not yet prepared mentally to open up about his Erectile problem with an other person other than you ( I am not sure whether he was ready to open up with you ) . So that consultation made him look like a loser and he wants to avoid you as you know about his condition . I advise you just leave him by himself for 2-3 days and after that talk to him like nothing happened . Once he starts feeling comfortable you can assure him that he means a lot to you and sex is just a small part of life and you love him for what ever he is ...