Hello and welcome to Healthcare Magic.

I understand your situation. Now, emotional attachments as well as sexual feelings are complex issues and often depend on a variety of factors - both psychological factors and bilogical factors.

Psychological factors are more common and include the level of intimacy achieved, the degree of communication between the two, whether a sufficient comfort zone has been reached, the seriousness of the relationship, the psychological make-up and the level of emotional involvement of the other person, etc. Past emotional or sexual experiences can also subconsciously be playing a part in your current involvement. For example, negative or painful experiences in the past can cause a person to be apprehensive or emotionally detached from future relationships. Environmental or situationl stress can also hamper emotional or sexual involvement. Biological factors can include hormonal imbalances, mood disturbances such as depression or other medical problems.

I would suggest that you first analyse these psychological factors to see if any of them could be playing a part in your relationship. I would also advise you to improve your degree of communication with your boyfriend and openly discuss what feelings you are going through or how serious both of you are about this relationship.

If you have been going through a period of persistent lack of sexual desire or if you are having any menstrual irregularities, then I would suspect a hormonal problem, in which case you may need a detailed evaluation, including a few blood tests.

Wish you all the best.

- Dr. Jonas Sundarakumar
Consultant Psychiatrist

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