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Suggest Ways To Deal With Child Custody Issues

My question is what do I say to my 10 year old daughter who has been temporarily staying with her dad until I recently found out by her that he and his new live in girlfriend have done drugs and she has no privacy and has to watch the girlfriend s children and even take cold showers so that she s not happy there, and obviously not in a good environment, so I am going to keep her with me but tonite when she would normally go to her dad s house, she will be staying here permanently. I will go to court and establish full custody, but in the meantime she will be upset as she has established friends there and so, what can I say once she is aware she will not be going back and seeing her father (unless he goes for supervised visitation?) I know it s best for her but how can i say that to her so she understands?
Mon, 8 Dec 2014
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Hi,
I understand your concern. Though I am not a lawyer/ I am trying to answer your query.
10 years is quite young. She won't understand the things you think about. Only way to convince her is by
- taking her to a counselor,
- Not insisting but making her realize the dynamic future she has ahead while staying with you/ about better friends she can have here. Make somebody else telll her about the menarkae, & how mother is needed during that phase of life.
- In direct comparison between her present life & proposed future can be done by one of her aunt( whom she is attached to)/ one of her near friend can hep.
- If nothing works,judicial process remains as a last resort.
Thank you.
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Suggest Ways To Deal With Child Custody Issues

Hi, I understand your concern. Though I am not a lawyer/ I am trying to answer your query. 10 years is quite young. She won t understand the things you think about. Only way to convince her is by - taking her to a counselor, - Not insisting but making her realize the dynamic future she has ahead while staying with you/ about better friends she can have here. Make somebody else telll her about the menarkae, & how mother is needed during that phase of life. - In direct comparison between her present life & proposed future can be done by one of her aunt( whom she is attached to)/ one of her near friend can hep. - If nothing works,judicial process remains as a last resort. Thank you.