Hi Dr, and that you so much for your time.I have been in a relationship with a man for approximately 7 months. When we are out in public with other people in in groups he is very bubbly outgoing and carries on superficial conversations. He seems genuinely interested in what other people are up to and what there is happening in their lives. However, when we are together and we discuss these conversations, he doesn't remember who said what, or have any feelings about the conversations. When we are together,He hardly listens to me. If we are watching a movie and I comment on something and ask him what he thinks he looks at me like he has no idea what I'm talking about it bothers me that I feel like he is not listening. I frequently find myself asking him if he heard what I said and he says I heard you. But then he doesn't comment on what I said.When I am sick he acts as if it is an inconvenience for him and he has left for the day several times to be with his family instead of with me while I am home sick. He doesn't seem to have any opinions about things such as things going on in the world things going on in the family and other things like that he simply sits quietly and doesn't respond he doesn't want to know anything about my childhood, where I grew up, how I grew up, or even who I was as a person before I met him. I am 53 years old, and he is 60. He doesn't tell me anything about his childhood and he doesn't ask about mine. He simply says if there's something I want him to know I will tell him. Otherwise he doesn't ask. He says he's not interested in those things. I have also found that he has no empathy for others. Recently his elderly father was separated from his mother due to illness is and the family had to separate them to take care of them. I was telling him how awful I felt for them as they been married for over 40 years and how it must hurt them inside to be separated I asked him if he could imagine how horrible that might be. His response was that he never thought about that and you didn't mean anything to him he says he doesn't know how they feel and they just have to do what they have to do.He's a very church going man and believe in Jesus Christ and I feel sometimes he uses it as a crutch he is in my opinion a horrible listener and does not have conversation if I ask him a question or try to start a conversation he just sits there and stares ahead he has no response and cannot carry on a conversation with me. Although he is a life of some parties, he doesn't carry on conversations with them either he just says funny things and then move on to the next person I'm confused about what is going on but this is been an ongoing problem I feel lonely when I'm not with him but extremely lonely when I am with him please help me and give me ideas as to what might be going on thank you he also, has a very strong need to be correct. If you think that I am NOT right he will google it which hurts my feelings and when he finds out that what I did say was correct he doesn't acknowledge it he just says well it used to be that way or that's the way it is in California not where you grew up.when I explained to him that it hurts me that we don't have conversations and that he doesn't listen, he never apologizes. He never apologizes about anything. His apology is basically I'm so sorry you feel that way. And then that's it. I'm just so confused and I'm hurt thank you for your help Jeanne