I m 81. The refractory period for self induced orgasms went from every 3 days to about twice that around 4 months ago. My wife hasn t been able to participate for 3 years due to health problems. Is it more effective to leave it alone for several weeks and hope for the best, or keep getting it off about once a week? Also heard of massaging it every other day, should this help? The problem is if I get more dormant, will that be the end of all sexual activity? May require some research .