Question: this week i went on two dates with a girl and had unprotected sex with her after each of those. she told me on one of the dates she had sex with a guy (also twice) who later informed her he was herpes positive. i actually didnt really know much about herpes before and she said she was tested, negative and on birth control. i took that at face value and we had unprotected sex twice that week.

but after reading about the condition more i feel like she was a little casual about the whole thing and im somewhat worried. i wanted to ask an informed person how concerned i should be.

after asking her she said she got the test 6-8 weeks after exposure, it was an igg test and as i said she only had sex with the exposed person twice & i only had sex with her twice. she said she has never had any symptoms and the person who exposed her never did as well to their knowledge. the two of us had sex about 2 months after that.

i dont really feel right to date anyone else until i get tested, even if i use condoms. her blasé attitude towards it was a bit off-putting, as i feel like if i were in the reverse position i definitely would have confirmed my results at 3-4 months in. ive considered asking her to take another test, almost for her own sake, but feel a bit weird about that.

am i overreacting here? only 2 exposures and a negative test seem like nothing to worry about. but i still feel like this is gonna be rattling around my head for a while.