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Question: My 50 year old son tells me that he is unable to focus and seems to have anger issues - especially towards me. He is an only child and my husband passed away in 1998....I know this sounds petty but I think my daughter in law is the main problem. When my son & her got together she told me straight away that she
would be coming between my son & me - she has....my impression is that he is afraid to stand up to her...anyway how do I help him get himself back..I can't remember what it is called - I am sure you can..if you
need further info will try to help... XXXXXXX XXX
would be coming between my son & me - she has....my impression is that he is afraid to stand up to her...anyway how do I help him get himself back..I can't remember what it is called - I am sure you can..if you
need further info will try to help... XXXXXXX XXX
Brief Answer:
Undemanding love towards son and daughter in law is the best starter.
Detailed Answer:
Hello Ms. XXXXXXX
Welcome and thanks for your query.
I understand your concern.
The problem of competition between mother and daughter in law for the care and affection is present in many families.
What is to be realised is that the love between the mother and the son is different from the love between the husband and wife. When this acceptance of needing to love and be loved but in two different ways is present, there would be very healthy relationship between all three of you. This would be the best treatment for your son. Medicines are of little help in the long run.
So while you continue to love your son, try to love your daughter in law also like how you would love her if she were your daughter.
Both your son and daughter in law will sense this love and return it with time.
Best wishes and regards,
Undemanding love towards son and daughter in law is the best starter.
Detailed Answer:
Hello Ms. XXXXXXX
Welcome and thanks for your query.
I understand your concern.
The problem of competition between mother and daughter in law for the care and affection is present in many families.
What is to be realised is that the love between the mother and the son is different from the love between the husband and wife. When this acceptance of needing to love and be loved but in two different ways is present, there would be very healthy relationship between all three of you. This would be the best treatment for your son. Medicines are of little help in the long run.
So while you continue to love your son, try to love your daughter in law also like how you would love her if she were your daughter.
Both your son and daughter in law will sense this love and return it with time.
Best wishes and regards,
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
I have always said I loved my daughter in law and treated her as such.....it has not been returned...did I say she said she was going to come inbetween my son and me?....example: my granddaughter was married...Iwas asked not to come
to the rehearsal and at the wedding I was shown my seat at the end of the row
away from joining with others...that was in January and I have not been shown
any wedding pictures....my grandson was recently graduated from College and I
was called and given many reasons - weather, too many going etc. to not come to the graduation.-went by my self - 3hour drive......family was very important to
my late husband (me too) that is why I don't think medication has so much to do
with my son as manipulation....just recently got a voice mail for my birthday...have kept hurt to myself......any more comments?
to the rehearsal and at the wedding I was shown my seat at the end of the row
away from joining with others...that was in January and I have not been shown
any wedding pictures....my grandson was recently graduated from College and I
was called and given many reasons - weather, too many going etc. to not come to the graduation.-went by my self - 3hour drive......family was very important to
my late husband (me too) that is why I don't think medication has so much to do
with my son as manipulation....just recently got a voice mail for my birthday...have kept hurt to myself......any more comments?
Brief Answer:
Patch up
Detailed Answer:
Sorry for the delay in replying as we live in two different time zones.
I understand how hurt you really are.
How about your grandchildren? I know you love them. If they return the love, let them know that you would love to see the photos and they would send them to you.
You may require the help of a mediator or counsellor to patch up your relationship with your daughter in law. A family friend or clergy would be a good choice. If there is no appropriate person, you may require professional help.
In the meantime, remember ' To err is human, to forgive is divine '.
Forgive your daughter in law and you will feel less hurt.
Regards,
Patch up
Detailed Answer:
Sorry for the delay in replying as we live in two different time zones.
I understand how hurt you really are.
How about your grandchildren? I know you love them. If they return the love, let them know that you would love to see the photos and they would send them to you.
You may require the help of a mediator or counsellor to patch up your relationship with your daughter in law. A family friend or clergy would be a good choice. If there is no appropriate person, you may require professional help.
In the meantime, remember ' To err is human, to forgive is divine '.
Forgive your daughter in law and you will feel less hurt.
Regards,
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Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
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