How can sexual pleasure be attained when semen is released ?
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Dear Sir or Madam, I am computer operator mostly work 12hours aday married on the Oct 2010. Before my marriage i had masturbated alot(2-3times a day). After marriage i had the problem of Erectile Dysfunction, after some days i got some ayurvedic products and my problem gone.
Now my major problem is when my semen comes out or during with my wife (intimacy or intercourse), i am feeling no pleasure at all. She is fine no problems for her. I like her very much. Only thing I defect in her having some heat in body. If no pleasure during semen comes out or whole sexual acts means no life no enjoyment.
Please advice what steps should I take or follow to get rid of this problem.
Now my major problem is when my semen comes out or during with my wife (intimacy or intercourse), i am feeling no pleasure at all. She is fine no problems for her. I like her very much. Only thing I defect in her having some heat in body. If no pleasure during semen comes out or whole sexual acts means no life no enjoyment.
Please advice what steps should I take or follow to get rid of this problem.
Posted Sat, 21 Apr 2012
in Sexual Problems
Answered by Dr. Rajinder Bajoria 14 minutes later
Hello,
Thanks for your query.
As your problem of erectile dysfunction is well treated to your satisfaction with Ayurveda medicines like ashwagandha and triphala, the problem you have reported does not seem to be related to any organic medical condition. So, there is nothing to worry.
Sexual satisfaction is not isolated to the few moments of ejaculation. Pleasure or enjoyment comes during the sex not during the discharge or ejaculation. And discharge or ejaculation is the final stage of sex. I suggest you not to consider this for pleasure.
It appears that you needs change of concept of sexual pleasure. You will be able to enjoy sexual life in a better way.
So change your perception or thinking about discharge or ejaculation .
Books and literature on sex or intimacy will help you realise the truth or reality. With changed thoughts, it is possible to enjoy sexual act completely.
A few tips that will help you are
1. Good and adequate sleep.
2. A healthy diet.
3. Drink plenty of water.
4. Increased foreplay.
5. Practising safe sex.
All these measures will be useful in treating the present problem.
You can also consider discussing with a sexologist to retrain your mind if necessary.
‘Hope I have answered your query, I will be available to answer your follow up queries,
“Wish you Good Health and trouble free speedy recovery”
Regards
Thanks for your query.
As your problem of erectile dysfunction is well treated to your satisfaction with Ayurveda medicines like ashwagandha and triphala, the problem you have reported does not seem to be related to any organic medical condition. So, there is nothing to worry.
Sexual satisfaction is not isolated to the few moments of ejaculation. Pleasure or enjoyment comes during the sex not during the discharge or ejaculation. And discharge or ejaculation is the final stage of sex. I suggest you not to consider this for pleasure.
It appears that you needs change of concept of sexual pleasure. You will be able to enjoy sexual life in a better way.
So change your perception or thinking about discharge or ejaculation .
Books and literature on sex or intimacy will help you realise the truth or reality. With changed thoughts, it is possible to enjoy sexual act completely.
A few tips that will help you are
1. Good and adequate sleep.
2. A healthy diet.
3. Drink plenty of water.
4. Increased foreplay.
5. Practising safe sex.
All these measures will be useful in treating the present problem.
You can also consider discussing with a sexologist to retrain your mind if necessary.
‘Hope I have answered your query, I will be available to answer your follow up queries,
“Wish you Good Health and trouble free speedy recovery”
Regards
Follow-up: How can sexual pleasure be attained when semen is released ? 11 hours later
Thanks for the reply sir, but i am doing everything but from ** start to ending i am not feeling good, pleasure ** This is the mainproblem sir.
Answered by Dr. Rajinder Bajoria 6 hours later
Hello,
Nice to hear from you again.
Pleasure in life comes from sharing & spending enough good time with each other.
Try to under stand each other thoroughly.
Sex is not the only thing in married life.
Once one start enjoying the company of each other, pleasure in sex also follows.
Real married life & sex life is quite different than what we see in movie & sex literature.
Hope I have answered your query.
Wish you Good Health.
Nice to hear from you again.
Pleasure in life comes from sharing & spending enough good time with each other.
Try to under stand each other thoroughly.
Sex is not the only thing in married life.
Once one start enjoying the company of each other, pleasure in sex also follows.
Real married life & sex life is quite different than what we see in movie & sex literature.
Hope I have answered your query.
Wish you Good Health.
Follow-up: How can sexual pleasure be attained when semen is released ? 24 minutes later
what do u mean i am not spending time with wife? Silly answers providing here i am having serious issue u just suggesting that
1. Eat well
2. Drink water
3. spend time with wife.
If we do 40% of these also sex good. I am feeling worse no interest at all. Day by day its even becoming worse. I am eating, drinkingwater, spending time--- the persons who dont do these daily also even having bad habits also enjoying sex.
i am doing everything, dont say these answers please refund my amount.
I am not at all convinced
1. Eat well
2. Drink water
3. spend time with wife.
If we do 40% of these also sex good. I am feeling worse no interest at all. Day by day its even becoming worse. I am eating, drinkingwater, spending time--- the persons who dont do these daily also even having bad habits also enjoying sex.
i am doing everything, dont say these answers please refund my amount.
I am not at all convinced
Answered by Dr. Rajinder Bajoria 19 minutes later
Hello,
Please forgive me if I have offended you.
I didn't mean that you don't spend time. The real sense here was to create an relaxing environment which helps you in enjoying the moment with each other. This is one of the treatment methods of medical science.
I am thinking very seriously regarding your problem and I feel this requires multifactorial approach.
If you are not happy then a visit to a sexologist would be helpful.
Wish you a Good health.
Regards.
Please forgive me if I have offended you.
I didn't mean that you don't spend time. The real sense here was to create an relaxing environment which helps you in enjoying the moment with each other. This is one of the treatment methods of medical science.
I am thinking very seriously regarding your problem and I feel this requires multifactorial approach.
If you are not happy then a visit to a sexologist would be helpful.
Wish you a Good health.
Regards.
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