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Question: Hi My daughter is 4.5 yrs old. She goes to Jr. KG. Earlier she used to do good colouring very neatly and use different colours. Offlet she has started colouring very abruptly. She fills in colors very lightly and spreads out. Also her handwriting has become poor. She has become extremely naughty. She doesnt improve while encouraging her or talking to her also.
Hi XXXXXXX
Good morning!
Welcome to XXXXXXX
I have a few questions to lead to diagnosis.
Is she hyper active?
How is her school performance?
What about verbal activities like recitation of rhymes, counting 1- 20 etc.?
Does she have some new friends in the class or among neighbours?
Did something happen in the family to upset her emotionally like arrival of new child,new maid,etc?
Are you a working mother?
Why I am asking these is because a relatively normal child has suddenly changed according to you.!
So we have to find out environmental causes before deciding whether the cause is within her .
Kindly answer these questions so that I can give suggestions!
Good luck
God bless
Dr Uma
Good morning!
Welcome to XXXXXXX
I have a few questions to lead to diagnosis.
Is she hyper active?
How is her school performance?
What about verbal activities like recitation of rhymes, counting 1- 20 etc.?
Does she have some new friends in the class or among neighbours?
Did something happen in the family to upset her emotionally like arrival of new child,new maid,etc?
Are you a working mother?
Why I am asking these is because a relatively normal child has suddenly changed according to you.!
So we have to find out environmental causes before deciding whether the cause is within her .
Kindly answer these questions so that I can give suggestions!
Good luck
God bless
Dr Uma
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
Dear Ma'm
replies to you questions as below.
have a few questions to lead to diagnosis.
Is she hyper active? - Not very much but she is active
How is her school performance? - excellent
What about verbal activities like recitation of rhymes, counting 1- 20 etc.? - absolutely yes
Does she have some new friends in the class or among neighbours? - not new as of now. they are their since quite long time
Did something happen in the family to upset her emotionally like arrival of new child,new maid,etc? - I've gone thru separation 1 yr back. But she was quite stable since almost 7-8 months. In fact she has improved academically also and she takes interest in other activities also. She is now stabled with my parents also as I'm staying with them. There's no other child at home so she gets full attention from them. And she is very normall about the fact that I n my husband are not staying together. I mean we never talk about all those things. She knows that we are not cofortable with each other so. She visits my husband on n off.
Are you a working mother? - Yes I'm working. That too since quite sometime. She is habituated with the same.
Why I am asking these is because a relatively normal child has suddenly changed according to you.!
So we have to find out environmental causes before deciding whether the cause is within her .
Kindly answer these questions so that I can give suggestions!
replies to you questions as below.
have a few questions to lead to diagnosis.
Is she hyper active? - Not very much but she is active
How is her school performance? - excellent
What about verbal activities like recitation of rhymes, counting 1- 20 etc.? - absolutely yes
Does she have some new friends in the class or among neighbours? - not new as of now. they are their since quite long time
Did something happen in the family to upset her emotionally like arrival of new child,new maid,etc? - I've gone thru separation 1 yr back. But she was quite stable since almost 7-8 months. In fact she has improved academically also and she takes interest in other activities also. She is now stabled with my parents also as I'm staying with them. There's no other child at home so she gets full attention from them. And she is very normall about the fact that I n my husband are not staying together. I mean we never talk about all those things. She knows that we are not cofortable with each other so. She visits my husband on n off.
Are you a working mother? - Yes I'm working. That too since quite sometime. She is habituated with the same.
Why I am asking these is because a relatively normal child has suddenly changed according to you.!
So we have to find out environmental causes before deciding whether the cause is within her .
Kindly answer these questions so that I can give suggestions!
Hi Dear,
I have following suggestions.
1 Try to be patient with her - whatever your emotional feelings ( I know the stress of a working mother)
2 use the so called carrot and stick policy --what I mean by this is when she is good and obeys you you reward her with a sticker or chocolate or even a simple hug and when she is naughty show that you are not happy but never beat her!( you just say mummy is sad ,mummy is upset etc and tell her what is right.
3 discuss with her teacher about her school performance and behaviour and if the teacher is happy that shows there is nothing organically wrong with her.
What she does at home may be attention seeking.
4 when you and your parents take care of her see that there is no over doting and no contradictions (like TV viewing etc)
5 have fixed hours of TV,video games,outside games,studies,etc and try to follow the discipline.
6 Finally definitely living away from father is a trauma to her ( even if she openly does not acknowledge and ESP if he was nice to her)
Give her more time and let her calm down.
As a mother and grand mother I very well understand what you are going through !
All the best XXXXXXX
God bless you and your daughter
Dr Uma
I have following suggestions.
1 Try to be patient with her - whatever your emotional feelings ( I know the stress of a working mother)
2 use the so called carrot and stick policy --what I mean by this is when she is good and obeys you you reward her with a sticker or chocolate or even a simple hug and when she is naughty show that you are not happy but never beat her!( you just say mummy is sad ,mummy is upset etc and tell her what is right.
3 discuss with her teacher about her school performance and behaviour and if the teacher is happy that shows there is nothing organically wrong with her.
What she does at home may be attention seeking.
4 when you and your parents take care of her see that there is no over doting and no contradictions (like TV viewing etc)
5 have fixed hours of TV,video games,outside games,studies,etc and try to follow the discipline.
6 Finally definitely living away from father is a trauma to her ( even if she openly does not acknowledge and ESP if he was nice to her)
Give her more time and let her calm down.
As a mother and grand mother I very well understand what you are going through !
All the best XXXXXXX
God bless you and your daughter
Dr Uma
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
Thank you so much Ma'm. I've actually tried carrot n stick (though i didn't want it to as it may become a practice) for her colouring but it doesn't work their. Today only I've met her teacher in parents meeting and she is absolutely doing good academically. Only thing is that she has one friend and she talks to her only. She otherwise keeps talking to other kids but that one girl is special.
Will definately take your guidance forward and try bring discipline in all aspects.
Thanks a ton once again Ma'm
Will definately take your guidance forward and try bring discipline in all aspects.
Thanks a ton once again Ma'm
Yes dear,
Let her have a special friend ,no problems as long as she is a good girl.
It is a good news that she is doing fine in her school!
I am sure she will turn around soon!
I hope and pray for your success in all your endeavours!
God bless
Dr Uma
Let her have a special friend ,no problems as long as she is a good girl.
It is a good news that she is doing fine in her school!
I am sure she will turn around soon!
I hope and pray for your success in all your endeavours!
God bless
Dr Uma
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Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
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