He is the father of my only child, now an adult, who just returned from a visit. His dad is moving from treatment to hospice with 2 months (or days or weeks) to live. He just got diagnosed with cancer 9 months ago and so far I have said nothing to my ex about it, but have been getting updates from my son and trying to be supportive to him about it. Now I feel I should say something to my ex - we have been divorced a long time but I have remained on decent terms with him and his current wife, though we don't communicate much now that my son is an adult and married. My son says his Dad is not doing email anymore and that phone calls are awkward, so I thought I might send a Thinking of You type of card. What should I say or not say? Do I say anything about our past and how good that was despite the marriage not working? I want to say SOMETHING, but I don't know what! I live thousands of miles away so can't really offer help. Also, should I go to his funeral? We were married over 10 years and I was and have remained on good terms with most of his family. Thanks for any advice.