Hi..
Welcome to HEALTHCARE MAGIC..
I have gone through your query and can understand your concerns..
As per your complain it seems that sore tongue along with red bumps and also a white coating over the tongue seems to be due to fungal /yeast infection of the tongue known as
Oral Thrush and as you removed the white layer there seems to be underlying raw and inflamed surface that is painful..
Your husband might have
fungal infection on his genital which you might have contracted while fellatio or oral sex..
I would suggest you to consult an Oral Physician and get evaluated and a thorough clinical evaluation and investigations like oral swab culture and also microscopic examination of scrapings from the tongue can help in diagnosis and treated accordingly..
In case of thrush you can be advised
oral antifungal medications like
Fluconazole can be advised to you..
Clotrimazole lozenges and Nystatin mouthwash can also be given..
For relieving soreness gargle with Lignocaine mouthwash..
Do cold water rinses and suck ice..
You can also take anti inflammatory painkiller like Ibuprofen..
Hope this information helps..
Thanks and regards.
Dr.Honey Nandwani Arora.