Dear service user, Thanks for writing to healthcaremagic. I understand your concerns about inability to have erection especially when you see it or you want it . This happens due to psychological influence. Let me explain. An occasional episode of erectile failure due to functional or situational reasons like fatigue, tension or own pressure to perform rather to enjoy is very common. This seems in your case. When you focus on your penis to make it erect, it may loosen. First erectile failure due to any reason leads one to be worried about next sexual encounter. One focuses constantly on how do i perform . This leads to anxiety and difficulty in erection in subsequent sexual activities. One’s anxiety goes on increasing with every ‘failure’. You have early morning erections. It suggests that your physical systems are working properly. Masturbation is akin to sexual intercourse. What penis does in vagina during sexual intercourse, same it does during masturbation in your folded palm? This is a natural activity and I would say a healthy activity and does not either affect or deter sexual performance. What you need to do is to consult a psychiatrist well versed with psycho sexual therapies. He will definitely assist you to come out of this problem. Wish you good health ahead.