I am sexually clean and so is my partner. We wear non latex condoms , when I wore latex condoms with my previous partner I would get horrible utis. I stopped using latex and they stopped, I figured I was allergic. My new partner is larger then my previous one, he also likes sex multiple times. This is not a problem with me other than right after sex the first time my vagina opening starts to swell . The top wall (when laying on my back) swells and is VERY painful, and will stay painful for at least a day after wards. Not to get to graphic but you can t even put a finger in. And it is only the opening if I finally get him in (usually the day after he is fine inside till he goes to pull out or push in. I ve tried many positions and it still hurts. I am sure he is stretching me, but he is not tearing there s no blood after sex. Any ideas on how to stop it or heal it faster. Also lube I do not think is an issue. We tried that last time and it was still swollen.