Thank you for the clear description.
You probably suffering from bipolar disorder
Bipolar disorder is a combination of recurrent attack mania and depression
. Manic features are aggressive and abusive behaviour, decrease sleep, growing grudge on people whom she don't like and taking revenge with bad words while arguing, over thinking on any incident. While depressive features are when she was sitting quietly not talking nor interested in daily activities, anxiety
, recalling those previous incidents in her life, reduced sleep, etc.
Consult a psychiatrist
for proper management.