Hi all I am a 40 year old male how has wet the bed on and off all my life and I leak in the day I do under stand that y I did this in the past was because of drink not managing the problem but now I am 40 I need to get a grip of it. For the last year I have been boing every thing I can think of the manage this problem ie no beer not drinks after 9pm going to the bathroom befor bet setting my alarm for 3am to get up and go to the bathroom. Most of the time this works well it's gone down from 3/4 times a week to 1/2 times a week so I think this is manageable. But for the last 38 years I have been trying to hide it from every one and concentrating on only that but now I am thinking of how it happens not how to manage it so I need you help . I have notesed that when I wake up mid flow or then I have to hold it for a long time my willy is hard or hard way on the way is this y I my bladder empties ?? If it is how do I manage it (drugs it keep it down when I do not need it) ??