Thanks for your query,based on the facts that you have posted it appears that you have problem of Erectile Dysfunction
and early ejaculation even without penetration of vagina.
This is mostly due to anxiety
and common during early period of sexual life ,
There is nothing to be worried about it ,it will get resolve over a period of time .
Following measure will help you to boost up your confidence and getting good erection.and delay ejaculation.
1) Practice regular exercise for 45 minutes followed by meditation
for 1/2 an hour in the morning.
2) Take high protein diet rich in vegetables and fruits and Vitamin A
3)Take anti oxidants like Almonds 5-6 everyday..
4) Avoid alcohol and smoking