Brief Answer: You need to discuss with him Detailed Answer: Dear Friend. Welcome to HCM. I am Dr Anshul Varshney. I have read your query in detail and i understand your concern. This is really a big problem these days, but unfortunately for you and fortunately for your husband, it is not considered as a disease. It is considered as human behavioral choice for the sex. One can have different sex preferences, and it is mostly seen that they have same sex preference since beginning, and they marry opposite sex just for sake of the society. There is no treatment option available, as this is not a disease. The best way out, that has been seen in such condition is "Clear Discussion" . You have to discuss your all issues, and problems with him, and listen to him too. You both have to talk and decide, what can be done. You also discuss with him, your love and your needs for sexual pleasure from him. Also, discuss about getting Sexually Transmitted Diseases in case he asks you to have threesome, or to adjust with this. It has also been seen, that Psychiatrists and Psychologists also fail in sorting these problems, as the other person doesn't take this as problem and refuse to take any help. However, you can always take help from marriage counselor. Friend, here i can just say that only discussing your problems with your husband calmly can give a way out to solution. This is my best opinion based on available details. if you have any further query, please ask me.

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