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What Causes Auditory Hallucinations?
Question: I don't know if I can continue to talk with you but I have been feeling so sad for XXXXXXX I know that his hyperfocus on going through his emails is due to looking to see if I had sent him another email...my son and I both have gut feelings that he is missing me a lot.. XXXXXXX doesn't usually care that much about his emails. Muttering, ignoring people hearing voices yes but hyperfocused on his emails no..he told me once that he gets so many emails that he can;t and doesn't try to get to them all but if he is looking for one from me then he would become obsessed by it...I feel so sad and so does my son because we used to talk to him about anything...I am not sure how to deal with all of this or approach him on getting help..you said he was suffering. I know he is, I can feel it..how do I deal with it...I know now that he still cares about me and thinks about me and feel almost worse about that now as I am helpless to help him now..do you have any ideas?
Brief Answer:
He still cares about you but is also ill
Detailed Answer:
Hello again
You are right, he may be looking for XXXXXXX from your side but at the same time he may find excessive XXXXXXX disturbing. We can't predict course of his illness. Now you are accepting that he cares about you and this is right. He cares about you and this may be the reason of his distancing from yourself because probably he is having hallucinations which might be directing him for homicidal ideas.
You can pass this time only by accepting that he is ill and need treatment. Try to accept both things that he cares about you and he also lacks insight. He is not real and this is the reason for his bad behaviour. If you want to mail him then as per my opinion don't mail him before 3 weeks. This will give him some time and he should feel and realise your absence. Try to understand this. Try to spend your time in doing constructive things, he will surely improve.
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He still cares about you but is also ill
Detailed Answer:
Hello again
You are right, he may be looking for XXXXXXX from your side but at the same time he may find excessive XXXXXXX disturbing. We can't predict course of his illness. Now you are accepting that he cares about you and this is right. He cares about you and this may be the reason of his distancing from yourself because probably he is having hallucinations which might be directing him for homicidal ideas.
You can pass this time only by accepting that he is ill and need treatment. Try to accept both things that he cares about you and he also lacks insight. He is not real and this is the reason for his bad behaviour. If you want to mail him then as per my opinion don't mail him before 3 weeks. This will give him some time and he should feel and realise your absence. Try to understand this. Try to spend your time in doing constructive things, he will surely improve.
Thanks
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
In some ways this is even harder for me...I love him so much and want to help him through this so very very badly. I have looked up psychiatrists in our area and there are not many as we live 100 miles north of XXXXXXX in a rural cowboy town..I want him to receive therapy for the trauma that initiated the schizophrenia as well as medications although with only one kidney at 64 am concerned about his ability to process meds..it is so very very hard to wait and I feel his suffering. I can only imagine how bad he feels..he is such a gentle kind but guilt ridden man with low self esteem and I am sure that he feels terrible right now...I studied counseling for awhile and was working on my Master;s Degree and love people and I am suffering because he is...I want to help but do not know how to do that now...I am glad that he still cares about me something we all thought did not just go away but it is so hard now to be patient. If we went up to his store he is pretty unpredictable so that is not an option...I am so connected to him as is my son,. XXXXXXX my son, is struggling too because of both XXXXXXX and me, he loves us both...the days stretch on and on and I have no idea how he would receive any offer of help..he has a delusion he will lose all of his money too and that makes it hard to suggest paying for him to see a doctor unless he sees his primary care doctor or internist...I am trying to cope with this new information and am feeling so sad for him..
Brief Answer:
Utilise your skills in helping others
Detailed Answer:
Hello again
As he is unpredictable in his behaviour any attempt to suggest him medicines or psychiatrist can be considered as bad. But if there is option of some common friend or if your daughter could suggest him for medicines then it would be better. As his main symptoms are positive psychotic symptoms he would respond to medicines with good outcome.
You have done a course of counselling then try to utilise your skills of counselling. Try to help others if possible and this would minimise your suffering. This would also keep yourself busy and you will feel better. Your son and daughter are really supportive and they care about you. Try to keep yourself engaged with them. Improvement in your mood will improve your general health.
Commonly used antipsychotic drugs are considered safe and even if an individual have one functioning kidney, medicines can be given. So if by any means he become ready to take medicines, there would be no risk.
Thanks
Utilise your skills in helping others
Detailed Answer:
Hello again
As he is unpredictable in his behaviour any attempt to suggest him medicines or psychiatrist can be considered as bad. But if there is option of some common friend or if your daughter could suggest him for medicines then it would be better. As his main symptoms are positive psychotic symptoms he would respond to medicines with good outcome.
You have done a course of counselling then try to utilise your skills of counselling. Try to help others if possible and this would minimise your suffering. This would also keep yourself busy and you will feel better. Your son and daughter are really supportive and they care about you. Try to keep yourself engaged with them. Improvement in your mood will improve your general health.
Commonly used antipsychotic drugs are considered safe and even if an individual have one functioning kidney, medicines can be given. So if by any means he become ready to take medicines, there would be no risk.
Thanks
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
I'm not interested in doing anything like I don't want to help other people I can not even get out of bed except for brief periods I don't care to see anybody I just cry all the time all I care about is XXXXXXX he and I had dreams for the future and I'm sure my daughter wouldn't be able to talk to him about seeing a psychiatrist or medicines so I'm not sure how he's going to get helpI don't have any interest anymore except for him and just cry all the timeI go out briefly with my son and my daughter occasionally but it's few and far between thank you for trying to give me a pep talk but I'm really not interested I'm only interested in seeing XXXXXXX again and helping you that's the only thing I'm interested in anymore
Brief Answer:
Try to develop new interests if possible
Detailed Answer:
Hello again
As presently you are not feeling good and have devastated feeling so you are not feeling like getting out of bed. But GOD had made our brain and body to adapt to pain. With passage of time intensity of any pain or trauma decreases. Yes it is difficult because you couldn't contact XXXXXXX but at least you have thoughts to help him. Let's rely on natural course of illness and expect some improvement in his delusions with time. Try to develop new interests if possible, this would surely help you. If counselling is not possible then other option is, continue to learn Hebrew.
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Try to develop new interests if possible
Detailed Answer:
Hello again
As presently you are not feeling good and have devastated feeling so you are not feeling like getting out of bed. But GOD had made our brain and body to adapt to pain. With passage of time intensity of any pain or trauma decreases. Yes it is difficult because you couldn't contact XXXXXXX but at least you have thoughts to help him. Let's rely on natural course of illness and expect some improvement in his delusions with time. Try to develop new interests if possible, this would surely help you. If counselling is not possible then other option is, continue to learn Hebrew.
Thanks
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
I don't really believe that time heals all wounds the long passage of time since this happened has served only to make me feel worse I'm not interested in people I've become a recluse and I feel like I might die of a broken heartI'm tired dr. Bishnoi tired of living tired of trying anymore i feel like I'm dragging an elephant up the hill and I just can't do it anymore.I just don't want to keep on trying. I'm getting too old to keep on with this anymore.I have also had some really bad experiences with the ER and the Psychiatric hospital as well as the police and court system so prefer to stay at home away from people, I had DID and PTSD and was re traumatized this past year in addition to everything that happened with XXXXXXX .it has made me gun shy of people and untrusting of mental health personnel..many of whom just want me to forget XXXXXXX and move on. I have nothing to move on to,not anymore..just thought I should let you know. I have been talking to you for over a month and finally have decided to open up to you a bit more. I don't want XXXXXXX to have that kind of trauma...he has suffered enough..
Brief Answer:
Don't loose your hope
Detailed Answer:
Hello again
Talking about your trauma will help to remove conflict. This will help you to relive some traumatic events and this really helps by increasing tolerance to anxiety. Talking will lighten your mood.
Repeated traumas to your life have resulted in these negative feelings and lack of desire of living. Please try to appreciate what you have and continue to try for XXXXXXX Trying to forget him would do no good and this is not a right option as per my opinion.
It depends upon Psychiatrist or therapist that what is good for you. As per my opinion you should try, and should not move back. This would help you to find new hope and other option may worsen your situation only.
Just to sum up, please realise that he is ill and is not aware of his actions. Keep your optimism alive and pray for his recovery.
Thanks
Don't loose your hope
Detailed Answer:
Hello again
Talking about your trauma will help to remove conflict. This will help you to relive some traumatic events and this really helps by increasing tolerance to anxiety. Talking will lighten your mood.
Repeated traumas to your life have resulted in these negative feelings and lack of desire of living. Please try to appreciate what you have and continue to try for XXXXXXX Trying to forget him would do no good and this is not a right option as per my opinion.
It depends upon Psychiatrist or therapist that what is good for you. As per my opinion you should try, and should not move back. This would help you to find new hope and other option may worsen your situation only.
Just to sum up, please realise that he is ill and is not aware of his actions. Keep your optimism alive and pray for his recovery.
Thanks
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Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
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