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Suggest Ways To Take Care Of A Paranoid Schizophrenic
Question: My paranoid schizophrenic boyfriend told me he was deeple in love with me then two days later told me to stay away. He filed an injunction against us which was withdrawn. Now months later he blocked and unblocked our email but today returned my Chanukah gift. Can u help me?
I am still so upset. Didn't sleep at all last night and it is almost 9:30 at night...this man has NO FAMILYAND NO FRIENDS Except us..He has no children no relations that are alive and his wife is dead...I am being told I must face the reality that he will not beable tohave a relationship but that I could take care of him..NOT! He was wonderful until the filing of the injunction and hearing "entities" telling him to
kill people..gimme a break....just don't why he is rejecting us almost continually. He reblocked his emails...probably because I sent several TEST emalls with no text in the body of the email..
I am still so upset. Didn't sleep at all last night and it is almost 9:30 at night...this man has NO FAMILYAND NO FRIENDS Except us..He has no children no relations that are alive and his wife is dead...I am being told I must face the reality that he will not beable tohave a relationship but that I could take care of him..NOT! He was wonderful until the filing of the injunction and hearing "entities" telling him to
kill people..gimme a break....just don't why he is rejecting us almost continually. He reblocked his emails...probably because I sent several TEST emalls with no text in the body of the email..
Brief Answer:
Give him some time to improve
Detailed Answer:
Hello again
First of all I would like to tell you that this is not true that you are not fit for relationship, or you are too old to have relationship. Any person at any age can have relationship. A lot of patients of mine, even more than 70 years come to me to seek advice on their relationships. Keeping a relationship is matter of personal choice, and no one can decide whether you are fit for relationship or not.
Yes he is suffering from Schizophrenia and this disorder follows a continuous course, but paranoid delusions against a person show change with time. He had good relationship with you before May and at that time he was also a patient of schizophrenia. So maybe I am a little more optimistic but as per my opinion you should not lose hope.
He was fine but then due to hallucinations (voices from entities) he developed paranoid ideas against you and this resulted in filing an injunction, blocking of XXXXXXX rejecting gifts etc things. He is blocking and unblocking the XXXXXXX and recently blocked again because probably you sent him many test XXXXXXX (and you are accepting this).
Please it's not about facing reality. You have already faced the situation and are planning to move Israel. The situation is that he is suffering from Schizophrenia and you have to accept this thing. He is not having insight for his actions and he is doing all these things because of this loss of touch of reality. What I mean to say is that don't feel distressed or devastated that he rejected you, he is not in his normal mind. He is probably doing all this under influence of delusions.
Yes he needs treatment for improvement but you can't ask him for treatment because of legal problems. So in such case we are left with one option that is to wait. Don't mail him again and again; give him some time to improve or to come out of delusion.
Thanks, I hope you will follow my advice. Don't hesitate to contact again for more doubts
Give him some time to improve
Detailed Answer:
Hello again
First of all I would like to tell you that this is not true that you are not fit for relationship, or you are too old to have relationship. Any person at any age can have relationship. A lot of patients of mine, even more than 70 years come to me to seek advice on their relationships. Keeping a relationship is matter of personal choice, and no one can decide whether you are fit for relationship or not.
Yes he is suffering from Schizophrenia and this disorder follows a continuous course, but paranoid delusions against a person show change with time. He had good relationship with you before May and at that time he was also a patient of schizophrenia. So maybe I am a little more optimistic but as per my opinion you should not lose hope.
He was fine but then due to hallucinations (voices from entities) he developed paranoid ideas against you and this resulted in filing an injunction, blocking of XXXXXXX rejecting gifts etc things. He is blocking and unblocking the XXXXXXX and recently blocked again because probably you sent him many test XXXXXXX (and you are accepting this).
Please it's not about facing reality. You have already faced the situation and are planning to move Israel. The situation is that he is suffering from Schizophrenia and you have to accept this thing. He is not having insight for his actions and he is doing all these things because of this loss of touch of reality. What I mean to say is that don't feel distressed or devastated that he rejected you, he is not in his normal mind. He is probably doing all this under influence of delusions.
Yes he needs treatment for improvement but you can't ask him for treatment because of legal problems. So in such case we are left with one option that is to wait. Don't mail him again and again; give him some time to improve or to come out of delusion.
Thanks, I hope you will follow my advice. Don't hesitate to contact again for more doubts
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Dr. Bhagyalaxmi Nalaparaju
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