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Question: My kid sometimes feel over reacted, and this happens when he try meeting with group of kids( usually more than 3 kids). He goes to school daily, but does not seems to be mingling with kids. He is good at concentrating certain activities such as playing cricket, playing puzzles. He feels comfortable with known kids, but reluctant to mingle with less known kids. Could you please tell me the activities that we need to push him to do? Sometimes he behaves differently when any of neighbours(adults) wishes him like closing his eyes or clapping his hands..etc
Brief Answer:
Suggestions on social interaction
Detailed Answer:
Hi...By what you quote I understand that your kid is slightly shy and less interactive with strangers. At the same time - once he gets acquainted well he does not have any inhibitions. This is very well exemplified as you told that - he is now mingling well with your friend's kids.
Another issue I would like to clarify is that - this shyness is not related to the simple febrile seizures he experienced. This is not related to the curd and butter milk allergy too.
You have quoted a sentence - He is good at concentrating certain activities such as playing cricket, playing puzzles. He feels comfortable with known kids, but reluctant to mingle with less known kids - This itself signifies that his mental and physical capabilities are very good and he is just shy.
Usually this sort of shy behavior will disappear as the kid grows up.
What you can do right now -
1. Never label a child shy and talk so in front of the kid.
2. Never try to force the shyness out of the kid - the more you pull, the more some children become shy. You can’t force a child out of shyness. It’s better to create a comfortable environment rather than just asking to come out and mingle with people.
3. The most important thing is that the kids need some sufficient time mingle with - not only peers but also with the environment.
4. Do not reprimand the kid before stranger and other than family members that the kid is shy.
5. Praise the kid well and especially before strangers when they are social with strangers.
Regards - Dr. Sumanth
Suggestions on social interaction
Detailed Answer:
Hi...By what you quote I understand that your kid is slightly shy and less interactive with strangers. At the same time - once he gets acquainted well he does not have any inhibitions. This is very well exemplified as you told that - he is now mingling well with your friend's kids.
Another issue I would like to clarify is that - this shyness is not related to the simple febrile seizures he experienced. This is not related to the curd and butter milk allergy too.
You have quoted a sentence - He is good at concentrating certain activities such as playing cricket, playing puzzles. He feels comfortable with known kids, but reluctant to mingle with less known kids - This itself signifies that his mental and physical capabilities are very good and he is just shy.
Usually this sort of shy behavior will disappear as the kid grows up.
What you can do right now -
1. Never label a child shy and talk so in front of the kid.
2. Never try to force the shyness out of the kid - the more you pull, the more some children become shy. You can’t force a child out of shyness. It’s better to create a comfortable environment rather than just asking to come out and mingle with people.
3. The most important thing is that the kids need some sufficient time mingle with - not only peers but also with the environment.
4. Do not reprimand the kid before stranger and other than family members that the kid is shy.
5. Praise the kid well and especially before strangers when they are social with strangers.
Regards - Dr. Sumanth
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