Question: Hi , My Dad was misdiagnosed with diabetes for the last couple of years . From january he had big weight loss and kidney pains - again put down to diabetes. This week he had backache, constipation ,kidney pains went to emergent hospital last Sunday - had a scan it was fuzzy but showed something on pancreas. Next day confirmed tumour - pancreatic cancer. tuesday they said it has spread to liver. Waiting for the big meeting next week to have proper prognosis . However Im 12hours flight away and trying to debate wetehr to rush home now or wait for a bit - mum says he's deteriorated but we don't know if its the pain meds doing it or not - he has some patches the first were too strong - for pain this is so he has weaker ones now the first mad whim feel very funny. He also has some top up medicine which has morphine. Mum says of he sits down he falls asleep , is dopey and confused , was wet with perspiration through the night , repeats the same questions. Im trying to gauge could this just be the medicine or should I be flying home - can I afford to wait until wednesday to find out what they say. Mum said it was warmer but are night sweats a sign of something ?

Thank you - i suggested my mum contact out if hiurs doctor and yes it turns out the pain patches and medication are he cause he was given too storng doses and notnadvised how to take morphine . I dont understand why surgery not posisble - you can live without a great chink of your ljver why wont they cut it out ? Am shocked about je chemo i assumed this would be what helps hom
And i thought that was pallayive care . Please elaborate for me - is it because he wouldnt survive chemo or money reasons for nhs ? Would it be just pain reduction then ? My dad hopes to make ot to
My wedidng in july . Why do some people get chemo amd others not . In your honest opinion without knowiing full facts ( he ha sneevr had diabetes by the way thatvwas wrong diagnosis over last couple of years ) are we talking weeks only ? I have feared this as been bad since january and jow has pain , constipation etc . After this question i will save my follow ups until we get the bug meeting on wednesday which we fear may well be dreadful but i think I may need advice

Thank you . I realise i have to ask anothwr question before the wednesday news or I will be out of time so I will save my last until then . What concerns me right now is the loss of appetite and poor eating i know is common . Its just got very bad in last week ive been reading - i know little and often but conflicting advice about what - some suggest building up with creams , sugars etc . But i thought those things are bad - he only wants desserts but again sugar ? Im sure this will be addressed but i worry about it being too little for too long . Im guessing he will get nutrient milkshakes but until then - can he get anything like that form health food shop , can he buy digestive enzymes , would juicing fruit and vegetables be a good or bad idea ? What is good for him to eat , can he take multi vit - i think we have to make him eat at least a little please can you advise ?? Thanks

Hi , so latest is my dad realky didbt get on with the morphine medicine and so it was changed to um tamaform or simething like that . He was then in agony , ambulance calked they gave him the mirohine again . He stayed home overnight but was in pain . They went ti the meeting next day very little infirmation guven exceot its terminal 3-6 months . Yhey saud they had to get the pain under control as he coukdnt have treayment until it was chemo implied and mentioned . They gave him an injection and adnmitted him , he perked up a but and ate a bit but was in pain again overnight and the dictor had to come and up the meds . He now has enzymes , mum thinks uts when he eats he has the trioubke and they said it was the liver causing pain . My question is we feel very much in dark so far only be sooken to fir ten minutes - i think we have the right to reasonably exoect details of diet , supplements , whats going on now . Mum saud stay in china for a bit longer . R they right with the time frame and managing pain is just what hapiens till they find the balance at first ie dont panic at the pain they have to find the balance . I also wAnted him moved to the care of iyr nearest specialist pancreatic cancer hospital can i insist on it ? Should i ignore the time frame given ? Still trying yo decude wether to stay or go . Thanks