Suffering from insomnia and advised to take cysoscopy for enlarged prostrate. Should I be worried?
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90 year old father when he is in a car with me goes insane when a wrong turn is made or you question something he says innocently or answer merely confirm what he says and also turns into a thing from the cosmic zoo if a route different than what he is thinking is taken or have natural conversation with him. ie, father " leave your mother off at the place for a coffee at the mall while i go to the pharmacy buy something and walk over." myself " is that the place that the korean lady runs?"( there are more than one location in the mall to have coffee. true, in recent weeks it has been this 2 or three times but at other times and with his brothernlaw it has been in an adjacent location) he goes into an half hour or longer abusive verbal attack mose as I am driving and my nursing home mother is in the passenger seat and he is in the back seat going beserk behind my brain. this happens every third day, often in the car but elsewhere. everything challenges him and threatens is control intelligence. in 2007 he ruined a 2,000,000 dollar will that a cousin drew up for me before a lung cancer surgery she was preparing for. also a nut on his side of the family but sure of what she was doing. after the operation, he, trying to help her gets into a paranoic argument with her over childish bullshit like i stated above and before considering my welfare by letting it cool off threatens to call up her worst enemy, her sister who each wants to kill her as much as the sister wants to kill her back for decades, he does call up the sister, talks bad about her and then phones back the other, the will maker where i was the beneficiary and tells her he did so. she then out of anger flies from the states where she was vacationing to the noteries office and takes me off the will by drawing up a new one. he acted like he got even, not even considering my future which even if this 56 year old cousin would have spent a chunk of her assets still may have left me now 53 with something. I still defended my father as i knew this cousin was also volitile and ignorant but yet very certain, infront of an accountant friend, me, my father and a notery drew up a will. 5 years later a condo needed to be sold for my parents 200 miles from where thet reside. He and she were not able to obtain insrance for hospilization becaus no canadian insurance company would do so if he was accurate about his medical conditions including heart. 6 months prior he was examined at an american hospital where they really overdid it and his canadian travellers vacation coverage rejected the claim because he made a mistake on the verbal questionaire when he purchased the insurance pertaining to his real condition. He had to be responsible for the american hospital visit. Canadian coverage for its citizezens does not pay for that. Thism is nwhy I couldn't let him go handle the sale, he would be not only risking his life in a car with my dementia ridden mother but he himself, though not diagnosed yet, was slipping bad. I would get a call from the american airport from him wondering where to pick up the car. he would be lost. he already was admitted three times for heart and wanted to lie about it on the questionaire. For months we got into the worst fights and he threatened to disinherit me. He has done so dozens of times since over his crazinee and insanity and he is not nice. he is old school and like a drill seargent character. Finally his hear conditon sent him again to the local hospital and he had to concede. The real estate sal once I arrived was delayed 3 months because of the purchasers bank,. Finally it went through successfully thanks to me. Imagine if my dementia ridden mother and he won their fight ( it was horrible, like ascience fiction movie ) and went themselves? a heart visit in an american hospital could be up to 1,000,000 or more. he is not a millionaire. he wanted to go without insurance even after battles explaining that the insurance companies will not XXXXXXX it unless he ;lies and then afgter an actual visit they check his true medical history before paying the american hospital XXXXXXX When I handled the real estate transaction I was in an insomia and wierd stress condition that allowed me only 6 hours of sleep a month. My elder brother was diagnosed with cronic CLL - a lukemia and his grandaughter 4 years old with lukeia and both are under chemotherapy and transplants. The mother is now settled in a nursing home and the father is still independent but fights with everyone unless he is feeling perfect. he then turns into an evil monster child with threats and tongue lashingss. He screams at lawyers, bankers and relatives and since i am with him most i have to endure it and defend myself verbally. I didn't complain too much about the will he ruined wrecklessly until finally at the time of the real estate fights he told me to go somewhere and die. He was always a crazy individual who never knew that his crazy temper bothered people and when you argued back turned it into you being the bad one and not aware that he startes every time. since a child to everyone in the household includung live in grandparents its been moron, stupid and so on. a real nut case. My late grandparents used to complain that he ids good for nothing but to insult and tell off. he also used the strap when i was youny and slaps to the face. two things always concerned him, money and health. he had the money so he contolled. his intentions were not evil and my mother used to say " this is his make" he is still agood father. He does have another side and he did love mother but the crazy tantrums and insults constantly especiall if you asked him a question made me disrespect him. Two sides to this creature and not one to explain the world ut to tell you you were stupid afterwords. Spoke confusingly as if he were setting you up to be told off afterwords. he didn't care who was aroiund. Many more stories. Because of this, and the acne I became an intellectual but still extroverted. I am 250 pounds, 5 feet 11 inches, sexually active with female strippers though alert to potential risks and conduct my affairs with this in mind, not exercising but in the past usually did and funds limited to only 4 more years of rent and then 0 funds at all with no pension. Masters in accounting at age 36 and BA in political science 1981. Faced with lies and deceit from bourgois community here obliquely and directly since youth. Not sure which exercise approach to take now to avoid injury. Steady long term relationships with women are not on the list because even though an unattractive women is ok for periodic encounters it his hot women that arouse my desire to the hights. With ugly women with ugly bodies I invent fun scenarios. With the young I do not need scenarios, I ready before I even enter their abodes. Also I hate ignorance, I want a woman beautiful and itellectual for the long term. Diet is recently not good because of the stress but has been normally. Until recently I would say on a scale from 1-10 I would rank 7.5 on the nutrition and healthy eating scale. Heavy and bizarre stress gripp that no doctor was able to explain unti 8 months ago thanks to these beautiful naked and liberal women. My money problems are not because of this. Kindly take note of that. I do not like bourgois decadence even though the beorgoise class itseld is of wider scope. The " god that rules civilization" or the cosmos, or whate evr is a true fucker wanting only to show itself off. I am sure that any intelligent person when glancing through the pages of history and the present state of global societies must agree. What life long strategy for survival do you recommend. The monotheistic faiths I have rejected, especially the first because I am too intelligent to sample some while being aware that the rest is ignored which I see as earlyforms of dealing with life in all areas. truly I have studied the thinking of western civilization which includes this and religion is not the answer even when adhered to strictly unless this life counts for nothing. The first of the three if nyou really understand it does not even offer an afterlife unless, according to the philosophy their creator decides to do it. There are differences in opinion but it is all grasping at straws. Besides the message I hear from the cosmos is not to believe in the afterlife and it is loud. The message is to sit and do nothing and get the blame for it after unless you can afford to menjoy yourself. Here is my basic interpretation of the cosmos. Power rules whether political or within any other social structure. Nothing counts unless some other human entity acknowledges it, and will pay you for it. The creator is a fair weather friend which is robotic and the chief commandment really means "DO EXACTLY WHAT I SAY SO I CAN KILL YOU FOR IT IMMEDIATELT OR AFTERWARDS." This is directed to individuals, nations and biological life at large. Only sapiens however can reflect on it. We are here for the cosmos to fuck with us whethe people know it or not. The tactic is to blame yourself and others. This is why there are wars and losers. Political theory is useful but the true cause is behind the mind.
Posted Sat, 23 Nov 2013 in Mental Health
Answered by Dr. Srikanth Reddy 57 minutes later
Brief Answer: Clarification Detailed Answer: Hello, Thanks for using health care magic for posting your query. I have gone through your question in detail and I can understand what you are going through. I understand that you have some disturbed relationships with your family and your father seems to be having problem with senescence. I also understand that you are severely upset about your life and circumstances and really need somebody to listen to you. However I would like to request you to be specific in letting me know, what help do you need or queries do you exactly have. I would be more than glad to help you, but along with your history I also need to know query. As such do consider visiting a psychiatrist as you seem to be under lot of stress and stress is not good for the body. Hope to hear from you at your earliest convenience. Regards and wish you good health, Dr. Srikanth Reddy MD
Follow-up: Suffering from insomnia and advised to take cysoscopy for enlarged prostrate. Should I be worried? 19 minutes later
I saw one, he says my problem is insomnia so I am on 25 miligrams of serquel. The question is this. Given that the father becomes at a moments notice like the drill instructor in Full Metal Jacker but without justification and without a sane and reasonable objective except to keep his own control and fears over everything intact, and that he expresses consistantly no appreciation for all the assistance I give him whatsoever and only fights and gives sour expressions and this behavior is to everyone, and given that I am the main caregiver and that his behavior is unstoppable and is fear, anger, craziness etc, and that he had no hobbies in life except a cigar and a tv and that he always feels his intelligence is being questioned and was like this since I was young, SHOULD I DISTANCE MYSELF FROM HIM AND ALLOW HIM HIS SOVEREIGHNTY EVEN THOUGH HE IS CRAZY? iNCIDENTILLY, WHAT COULD BE THE CAUSE OF AN ENLARGED BLADDER? FLOW IS GOOD BUT BLADDER IS 3 TIMES THE NORMAL SIZE. i AM BOOKED FOR A CYSCOPACY ( WATCH SPELLING ). kINDLY BE CANDID. I WILL NOT HOLD YOU TO ANY COMMITMENT, I ONLY WANT TO KNOW WHAT IT COULD MEAN. I ALREADY HAVE A UROLOGIST. WHAT FITNESS GOALS SHOULD I CONSIDER? CAN A MAN OBTAIN A SEXUALLY TRANSMITTED DISEASE FROM A WOMAN IF NO EXCHANGE OF FLUID TAKES PLACE SERIOUS LAP DANCING, TOUCHING HER BODY WITH HANDS HER SITTING ON ME THOUGH i AM DRESSED AND ME TOUCHING HER TOATAL BODY AND VAGINA ON TOP OF HER PANTIES?
Answered by Dr. Srikanth Reddy 15 minutes later
Brief Answer: The answers to all your issues Detailed Answer: Hello Thanks for pointing out to the specific questions 1) I understand that you are getting burnt out handling your father and this is going to be tough. You cannot do anything about your father. At his age its difficult to mend him. The only thing which stays with us is changing the way we think about a situation so that it can cause minimal distress to you. The therapy which can help you is cognitive behavioral therapy. This therapy is taken by either a psychologist or a psychiatrist in which the therapist identifies impaired cognitions (Thoughts) and try to correct them. They are 15-20 min weekly session and there should be around 8-10 sessions to help you with your illness. 2) You have mentioned that the flow is good. So the other possible cause is congenital.It is possible that you have had this large bladder since birth and it does occur many times. Your urologist is still the best person to comment on this. 3) Lap dancing, touching the body, touching the vagina over panties cannot cause sexually transmitted disease. Hope that helps Regards Dr. Srikanth Reddy MD