Brief Answer:
Only love can settle disputes

Detailed Answer:
Dear XXXX
Thank you for the query.
I went through the details. I am happy to note that you were doing well in your married life. Also happy to note that you were not having any serious conflicts.

I can understand your present situation. I also understand the scenario in which you came back to your home.

I sincerely suggest to introspect. Go through the whole process once again. Who was at fault? Why that happened? Why your in-law was slapping your bhabhi?

First of all I never agree on husbands slapping wives. But actually there is a relationship. We do slap our brothers or sisters. Here, in married life, there is such a relationship. Relationship meshed in love.

You must understand that she is your bhabhi. They were married and living together more than you did with your husband. They are more experienced in these matters that you. They have quarreled and again meshed together. That is their life. Why do you want to interfere in their matters and put your life in trouble?

You are supposed to look after your life. You are supposed to tackle your husband. All others are third parties. You do oppose any interference in your family life by your in-laws. Then why are you interfering in their life. They know how to live. They do not require your help. If you try to help them without they asking for help, this is what happen. You put your self in trouble.

Getting angry and disgust is a common affair for you. You do it often and then you settle scores. The big mistake you are doing is "you came back home". Your home is now your husband's home. You belong there. If you leave it without your husband's permission, the problem will escalate.

I suggest you go back to your husband and say sorry for what happened, and live your life. Don't interfere in others life. If you behave like this, you are actually antagonizing him. He may start hating you and if such a thing happens, there is no return.

Talk to your husband. Love him so much and try to make him love you. Once that happens, then you can try manipulating his thoughts and if need be you can convince him to move out. Only love can do these things. No fights please.

Hope this answers your query. Available for further clarifications.
Good luck.
Dr. K V Anand PhD

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