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How Can One's Interest In You Be Identified In A Professional Setting?

Posted on Wed, 20 Sep 2017

Question: Hi,
recently I watsapp my male trainer thanking him, "yesterday u had actually called out to me and asked if I want to drink water, I feel very touched:kissing_heart:. thank you very much". he replied, " I also ask other participants to drink water also".
Is it juz a humble honest reply, meaning that I need not feel touched or thankful? Or is it he don't want me to mistaken/get wrong idea?
some of my outside frens felt that its he don't want me mistaken. I m nothing special so dun feel special.
but lately, I also noticed he would stand in front of my group n look at me a few seconds, whenever the start of warmup exercise.

Answered by Dr. salah saad shoman (2 hours later)

Brief Answer:
He doesn't want you to mistake his gesture

Detailed Answer:
Dear Ms, I have gone through your question and I understand your feelings .. It appears that your trainer is trying to be professional keeping his love life away from his work.. He also does not want you to mistake his gesture as a private care as he does this with others .
As for looking at you during excersice , he may like you but still this does not mean that he wants to take it to the next level as he made himself clear that he is treating you just as the others ..
I would recommend that you ignore his looks , if he has something to say , he will find a way to say it..
I hope you find this helpful..

Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Kampana

Follow up: Dr. salah saad shoman (9 days later)

Hi,

I observed that he had been noticing me after our final dance performance when he was coming to gather with us and taking photos of us.

When shaking hands with us to thank and bid farewell, he told me, "if destined, we will meet again". I was disappointed he did not ask me out, so I sighed and clenched his hand during the handshake and he teased me "don't cry", though I did not cry. He said "there are so many activities in our association, we sure to meet again".

I kept wondering how he feels about me or does he feel anything? Is it just limited to coincidently bumping into each other at association?

are there any steps that I should take? cos we have a dinner gathering as a group tomorrow and next Saturday is collection of our certs.

I miss him everyday and no chance to be with him

Answered by Dr. salah saad shoman (17 hours later)

Brief Answer:
Slow progression

Detailed Answer:
Dear Ms, apparently he has noticed that you like him but he does not want the things between you and him to take faster steps of action.. instead, he seems to take it easily and slowly by engaging in social activities together and then see what happens...

At this outset, you have two options, either to go along with him, engage in social activities with him and let things develop slowly between you and him .. or you can ask him out and accept the consequences whatever they are (including the positives as well as the negatives)...

I hope you find this helpful...

Regards

Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Arnab Banerjee

Follow up: Dr. salah saad shoman (3 days later)

that day during dinner gathering a friend took a photo of both he and I together. after the gathering they were reminding us of collecting our certs next Sat. He happened to be looking at me to remind me but yet his hand signaling the telephone receiver sign to call him? Keep in touch thru phone? I unable to catch what message he putting across to me.

when I WhatsApp him the photo of both of us, he replied with the 'hands clapping' emoji. what could he mean by it? I sent him a good night pic, he replied good night with the 'wink eye' emoji. again what it means? are things moving in positive direction?

Answered by Dr. salah saad shoman (18 hours later)

Brief Answer:
Yes

Detailed Answer:
Dear Ms, yes I think that things are going in a positive direction in a slow manner. I suggest that you take slow steps with him as it seems that he is not the kind of person who wants to relationships to progress fast. I hope you find this helpful..

Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Raju A.T

Follow up: Dr. salah saad shoman (11 hours later)

thank you for advice.

is that the reason why he never take the initiative to message me?

Answered by Dr. salah saad shoman (1 hour later)

Brief Answer:
Yes

Detailed Answer:
Dear Ms, yes that could be a reason that he wants to take things slowly .. you are welcome .. kind regards

Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Kampana

Follow up: Dr. salah saad shoman (5 days later)

Actually, he is also quite effeminate at times. recently, a guy who liked guys, blew a kiss to him. previously, when he himself was kidding around with others, he rubbed his head on another guy's shoulder.

I don't know if he is XXXXXXX or not. when I watsapp him, about it seems that guy liked him, and is it he liked the other guy, he did not reply to my this question.

does this mean he admits? or is it my question was too direct so he don't wish to reply?

Answered by Dr. salah saad shoman (17 minutes later)

Brief Answer:
Could be XXXXXXX

Detailed Answer:
Dear Ms, This could be a possibility that he is XXXXXXX and does not want to disclose this information to you or to the group that was there .. however , I would recommend that you try to find out from a trust worthy common friend whether he is XXXXXXX or not.. I hope you find this helpful .

Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Kampana

Follow up: Dr. salah saad shoman (18 hours later)

previously, one of the guy shared on facebook a picture of two urinals very close together. He also 'Liked' it. really there is a high chance he is gay?

Answered by Dr. salah saad shoman (16 hours later)

Brief Answer:
Could be a clue

Detailed Answer:
Dear Ms,

This could be a hint that he is XXXXXXX but still you will not be able to know for sure unless you ask someone who is close to him or just wait to see what happens ...

I hope you find this helpful...

Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Arnab Banerjee