Question: Hello doctor,

I got married in November, life was perfect till that time. On 3rd day of my marriage my wife was not able to wake up in morning. I tried to wake her up by shaking her and putting water on her and tried for 3 hrs but she was not responding at all. Eventually we called her family doctor which is her relative and he told us it is due to stress but however we could not digest that point and he gave etizolam and escitalopram tablets.

After that she always used to think negative about life that she will die one day and when she got angered always used to talk that this is her last night and she will die. She used to get angered over silliest thing and would last for hours
Few Examples
1) I was watching football one night (it is hard for me to understand that game without commentary & she told me to lower the volume as she wanted to sleep, i reduced volume from 8 to 1. This irritated her she went to balcony nd slept on floor. I pleaded her like anything but to no avail. It took 5 hours to convince her.
2) We went to XXXXXXX one day with family & family friends. We stayed at a reputed star hotel. There were 6 rooms together. My brother had health issues & was on wheelchair. We checked in at hotel at 6:45 pm & my brother wanted to have massage & spa was to be closed at 7 pm. My wife was in washroom & without informing her i went to spa & this angered her. She got irritated very badly & this episode went for 6 hours.
These are small examples.
She gets irritated like this every 15 to 20 days on silliest of things & sometimes her anger is there for 2 to 3 days. During those times she talks very rough language & it is unbearable to hear & she talks suicidal also.Any try from my side to calm her would fail. But I had lot of love and affection towards her. When she got angered she would talk irrelative things. She was out of control in anger. All family members were disturbed on both side and one day she ran away from my house on street and I chased her for 40 mins after that she went to her parents home. After that we demanded her parents that we sense that there is some psychological problem with her and we need to consult psychatrist but her parents are not agreeing. They are saying that they will not visit doctor at any cost.I wanted to know based on history provided and her doctors action by prescribing above mentioned medicines and her parents not allowing her to be taken to doctor, can it be assumed that her parents already knew of her mental disorder.

Please inform are these actions by her are of normal anger or is there any mental disorder?
Secondly what should i do at this juncture of my life. Her parents are not allowing for visit to doctor whereas my family are fearing that it is very risky to live with person like her
But i love her very much coz apart from these anger times she is very loving & caring.

Pls advice

Dear Sir,

Thanks for your reply. But present position is such that her parents are not agreeing for doctors consultation at any cost whereas my parents are not allowing to live together without consultation of doctor as they fear that she might do something to herself someday & i will end in jail.
Wanted to inform you 1 incident
During our engagement time we were speaking on XXXXXXX phone during night at arnd 00:30 hours. She got a call on landline & that was wrong number. But she was speaking with that guy on phone in jolly way. This angered me (because i do not like her speaking with strangers & that too on wrong number at landline & that too late in the night) & we did not speak for that night.
Next day morning she informed me that due to our not speaking she got angered so much that she consumed 6 pills of diabetes & 3 pills of blood pressure of her mother at a time.
This is kind of anger she has when she gets annoyed.

So i am stuck very badly.

Have lots of love & affection with her but at the same time no co operation from my in laws with regard to consultation with my doctor & my parents are also feared.

In short it is not advisable to live with such a person without medical consultation.