Dear Prm.M Thank you for writing to HCM. I can understand your concern about erectile dysfunction with your partner. Cause of erectile dysfunction should be ruled out for proper treatment. Mostly it is due to stress and anxiety. Situational reasons like fatigue tension or own pressure to perform rather to enjoy is very common. This seems more likely in your case. This occurs especially in newly married couples when one is highly concerned about own performance and desperate to satisfy’. When individuals are highly concerned about their performance and unfortunately focus on their penis for performance; it leads to erectile failure or weak erections. First erectile failure due to any reason leads one to be worried about next sexual encounter. One focuses constantly on how do i perform . This leads to anxiety and difficulty in erection in subsequent sexual activities. One’s anxiety goes on increasing with every ‘failure’. Just enjoy kindling and loving with touch in the way both of you feel comfortable, rather than focusing about your performance and pressure to satisfy her. What you need to do is to consult a psychiatrist well versed with psycho sexual therapies. He will definitely assist you to come out of this problem. I hope this will help you. If you have additional questions or follow up questions then please feel free to write to us. I will be happy to answer your questions. Wish you good sexual health ahead.