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What Causes Psychological Upset During Chemo Therapy?
Hi there,
My father was diagnosed with neck cancer and had the tumour removed recently, now moving onto chemo. He lives in another country, but was allowed to visit where i live (our home town) to "say goodbye" etc. He is a psychologically complicated person with narcissistic tendencies and has troubled relationships with lots of people (myself and my brother included). What i cant undersatnd is that he point blank refuses to talk to or see me (but will see everyone else). This may have been "normal" behaviour for him in the past, but given that life is now imminently short, i can't understand why he refuses to see me, his daughter, even if it means he or i will never see each other again. I am deeply upset by this and confused.
My father was diagnosed with neck cancer and had the tumour removed recently, now moving onto chemo. He lives in another country, but was allowed to visit where i live (our home town) to "say goodbye" etc. He is a psychologically complicated person with narcissistic tendencies and has troubled relationships with lots of people (myself and my brother included). What i cant undersatnd is that he point blank refuses to talk to or see me (but will see everyone else). This may have been "normal" behaviour for him in the past, but given that life is now imminently short, i can't understand why he refuses to see me, his daughter, even if it means he or i will never see each other again. I am deeply upset by this and confused.
Tue, 28 Jul 2015
Hi,
Thanks for writing in.
Cancer diagnosis is a challenging situation for the patient and his loved ones. Probably your father is trying to hide his emotions and wants to imply that he is the same person you and your brother knew in the past. It is difficult not to let down ones emotions and he might be a strong person or trying to be one.
Please keep your mind strong and pray to the Lord to help your father stay comfortable and his cancer to be cured if possible. Please treat him the way he wants to be treated and you might seek the help of a religious or family elder to break the ice and talks small things which might bridge the gap between the both of you. Please do not worry.
Thanks for writing in.
Cancer diagnosis is a challenging situation for the patient and his loved ones. Probably your father is trying to hide his emotions and wants to imply that he is the same person you and your brother knew in the past. It is difficult not to let down ones emotions and he might be a strong person or trying to be one.
Please keep your mind strong and pray to the Lord to help your father stay comfortable and his cancer to be cured if possible. Please treat him the way he wants to be treated and you might seek the help of a religious or family elder to break the ice and talks small things which might bridge the gap between the both of you. Please do not worry.
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