Hi there. I empathise with your plight. Herpes is a tricky disease to aquire especially genital Herpes. Before jumping to conclusions, get yourself tested for Herpes Simplex Type1 & Type 2 IgG & igM done as a blood test separately. Yes it is something that can be transferred sexually even with oral sex & kissing, hugging etc & is fairly easy to acquire unwittingly as well. It may very well be some sort of an allergic phenomenon that your partner is exhibiting. Do you use protection & if so, the condom material or gel/lubricant etc may all be implicated. If in Bangalore, please stop by for an assessment at Vikram Hospital or Sita Bhateja Speciality Hospital where I am based & will be happy to help. Best Regards & do practice safe sex always. Dr Praveen Rodrigues MD.