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What causes low sex drive?

My wife will never initiate foreplay/sex. When we end up having sex, it s almost like she just consents to it, instead of being into it and doing things to enjoy it better. Even during foreplays, she will only let me massage her boobs, touch her but and kiss her. I have tried to turn her on but kissing her neck, ears, caressing her body but it never seems like it is making a difference. She will not! Let me come anywhere close to her crotch with anything other than my penis. Forget de fingering, licking or anything. She won t touch my penis, or when she does during foreplays, it will be for literally 2 seconds or to put it in her vagina. Even in the everyday life I have to come I her to kiss her, hug her, cause if I don t go to her first, it wouldn t be happening. What do I do? I have told her before that I don t find she gives me enough affection and that I wish she would initiate sex sometimes. I am 24 and she is 23 we have been married 2 years and both never have sexual relationship before.
Wed, 27 Jan 2021
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Hello,

I want to update you about some knowledge for a better sex life. Women's sexual desire fluctuate with her menstrual cycle, pregnancy and menopause and her illness some medicines used for mood disorder also can cause a low sex drive. Sometimes, she may have a condition called as arousal disorder, there are lifestyle changes and sexual techniques that may put her in mood. Some medicine also help you, your differences may cause differences. Symptoms are like she doesn't even response to masturbation and even not responding to your sexual activity, solution is simple, change the medication if she is taking any, change the life style and any chronic medical condition like hypertension and diabetes should be treated.

Sexual desire depends upon complex interactions of many things affecting intimacy including physical and emotional well being, experiences, beliefs, life style and your current relationships. If you are experiencing a problem in any of these areas it can affect your desire for sex. Fatigue is also a cause, female are exhausted from caring for young children's or aging parents, causing low sex drive, and also due to illness. Hormonal changes will alter her sex desire, estrogen level fall in menopause, so it caused dryness of vaginal tissues, causing uncomfortable sex. After child birth and lactation affect sex life. Psychological causes also are responsible. Stress, financial issues, and sexual abuse are also affect sex life.

Take care. Hope I have answered your question. Let me know if I can assist you further.

Regards,
Dr. Sunita Kothari, OB & GYN Specialist
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What causes low sex drive?

Hello, I want to update you about some knowledge for a better sex life. Women s sexual desire fluctuate with her menstrual cycle, pregnancy and menopause and her illness some medicines used for mood disorder also can cause a low sex drive. Sometimes, she may have a condition called as arousal disorder, there are lifestyle changes and sexual techniques that may put her in mood. Some medicine also help you, your differences may cause differences. Symptoms are like she doesn t even response to masturbation and even not responding to your sexual activity, solution is simple, change the medication if she is taking any, change the life style and any chronic medical condition like hypertension and diabetes should be treated. Sexual desire depends upon complex interactions of many things affecting intimacy including physical and emotional well being, experiences, beliefs, life style and your current relationships. If you are experiencing a problem in any of these areas it can affect your desire for sex. Fatigue is also a cause, female are exhausted from caring for young children s or aging parents, causing low sex drive, and also due to illness. Hormonal changes will alter her sex desire, estrogen level fall in menopause, so it caused dryness of vaginal tissues, causing uncomfortable sex. After child birth and lactation affect sex life. Psychological causes also are responsible. Stress, financial issues, and sexual abuse are also affect sex life. Take care. Hope I have answered your question. Let me know if I can assist you further. Regards, Dr. Sunita Kothari, OB & GYN Specialist