Hello. My husband was in the military retired after 20 years with 100% disability. He does function very well physically . He s been retired a little over 10 years and his mental health is concerning me very much. He does go to V.A. for his physical care such as high blood pressure ect. The last few years I have noticed and also at a rapid rate he is no longer the same person as his mood is constantly changing for the worst. W have been married 16 years and I no longer know him or do I know what to expect. He is angry most of the time for no reason I am aware of , at times I see him outdoors standing around just staring as if he s in another world. He makes very bad choices about almost everything also about our finances and to the point of loosing our home. Before he got like this we made our decisions and discussed everything together as husband and wife should with no problem. He has become a habitual liar I m sorry but this is the best way I know how to refer to it. It s as if he doesn t remember so he makes stories up to justify his actions. but he is in denial about having a mental problem and will not tell his doctors! There are times he gets so angry over what reason I don t know I fear he will snap and kill someone or me. He was always in control and didn t get angry was understanding , compassionate , caring , loving and fun to be around. He no longer is sociable , doesn t want to be around me or anyone and no one wants to be around him because of his behavior and or attitude. It s so heart breaking and I have no idea or what I can do to help. I am considering calling his P.C. at V.A. but I am afraid of his reaction if he found out .He was always a controlling man in the past but wasn t a problem with myself .He is 65 years old . He was 33 years old when he joined the Army. I don t know if that has anything to do with his condition or not but we need help. I would greatly appreciate any advice. Thank you for you time and I am looking forward to hearing from you. Respectfully, Shirley Matlock