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Suggest Ways To Overcome Attitude Issues
Hi, I am 27 year old female, married, working as a researcher in india, weighs 49kg and 157cm tall. I have all my periods regular and on time. Hairs and nails are growing fine but facing severe hair fall and hair greying intensely. Coming to my basic character, i am very reserved type of person, talks very less but talks openly and frankly to those who i do. I have very less friends but whoever i have i trust them as my shadow. eventhough everybody see me as a matured independent person, i always owe to be supported morally by someone whom i trust as my breath. detailing about my problem, i cant control my temper. one thing is i am short tempered as well as i dont know what all i speak out when i am angry. after sometime when i realise i regret and cry a lot for the situation i have created. now the problem is very worse that i got married to a very nice calm, understandable and down to earth person. our marrigae happened one year ago and i know him for past two years. he tries to support me whenever i am angry, but now he started losing expectation from me. due to the career reason eventhough we are living physically separated, we always keep in touch through phone or other media. he visits me atleast once in two months. due to anger he is afraid that how it will be when we start a life together which we planned to start by next year end. moreover i have a feeling that my in- laws are not happy with me as i am living separated from their son and i am a reserved person. this created a block for them in my brain and i just manages them and dont feel anything for them from heart. i spoke this openly to my husband and he is supporting me and consoling me. never blamed me. but problem arises when i get angry i take names of my in laws for which he will tensed and crestfallen. eventhough everytime i try to control that it goes off my tongue. moreover he always tells me that i have attitude problem and i judge others too much. now the condition is that whenever he takes the words attitude and judgement i burst out like a volcano. this creates a barrier between us now as he is afraid to share his worries regarding family issues and also he is afraid when the smile from my face will change. now i get a feel that my husband doesnt love and care me as before and started losing faith in me. i want my family back and his happiness back as before. please help me in this. please....
Mon, 16 Jun 2014
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With your query, it s clearly understood that you are a straight forward person with independent character and you want your own career that's good no problem but always remember straight tress are cut first not the bent ones. so whoever straight they always face this issue. Now coming to your family issue
1. you are living seperately from your husband from the beginning of your marriage i believe so what happens here is understanding between both of you wont stand for longer though both of you feel that you know each other in evry aspect. Openly in the begining of any marriage living relation is must to understand each other open heartedly
2. Now coming into your in-laws any one even you when you become in-law think in the same manner no one is exceptional for this so always try to understand them by keeping your legs in their shoes.
3. Everybody talks uncontrollable when they are in anger but it is our own consiciousness we should be aware before we deliver our words.
Finally i would suggest you to be calm and think what to do to control your anger and make your husband to understand you better only this helps you. I believe this is not an serious issue to be considered since i see everything is in your hands you have already mentioned your husband is so understanding so he will be ready to accept you for his lifetime if you can control your anger and words.Do meditation for mental peace and to get control over your anger which helps you better.Hope this helps you
With your query, it s clearly understood that you are a straight forward person with independent character and you want your own career that's good no problem but always remember straight tress are cut first not the bent ones. so whoever straight they always face this issue. Now coming to your family issue
1. you are living seperately from your husband from the beginning of your marriage i believe so what happens here is understanding between both of you wont stand for longer though both of you feel that you know each other in evry aspect. Openly in the begining of any marriage living relation is must to understand each other open heartedly
2. Now coming into your in-laws any one even you when you become in-law think in the same manner no one is exceptional for this so always try to understand them by keeping your legs in their shoes.
3. Everybody talks uncontrollable when they are in anger but it is our own consiciousness we should be aware before we deliver our words.
Finally i would suggest you to be calm and think what to do to control your anger and make your husband to understand you better only this helps you. I believe this is not an serious issue to be considered since i see everything is in your hands you have already mentioned your husband is so understanding so he will be ready to accept you for his lifetime if you can control your anger and words.Do meditation for mental peace and to get control over your anger which helps you better.Hope this helps you
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