I was divorced about 6 years ago (no children) My ex-husband left me for another woman after 17 years of marriage (and a few more living together). I went through some very difficult years getting over that and a few other things, including a job loss, the death of a close sibling a year later (from alcoholism), and seeing my elderly mother go into a nursing home. I think I ve been over the divorce and death of my brother for a couple of years now. I don t feel that pain anymore. I ve had some good times, have a good job, I m financially ok and I have a decent life. Lonely, yes but ok. The thing is, ever since the divorce, I haven t felt truly close to anyone - not even good friends or family. I don t feel really welcome or accepted anywhere. I haven t thrown a party in 6 years. I don t call people very much and when I do I have this gut feeling that they don t want to hear from me. I rarely initiate social get-togethers. I accept most invitations (and am grateful for them), I enjoy my friends and have always genuinely liked other people. I just don t feel like I belong anywhere. I would like to understand why I feel this wat and what to do about it. It seems to be part of my wiring now. I really want to find a way to feel like I used to. If i can work this out, I think I will have a lovely life. :-) Thank you L