Dear Welcome to HCM We understand your concerns I went through your details. I suggest you not to worry much. I sincerely suggest that you are not a victim of social phobia. Rather these troubles are your own creations. You are not learning from your experiences. You have not mentioned your age. Can you assure me that every day and every now and then you are unable to fit in with your friends, do something which others don t like . i am sure this happened several times. But there are numerous other occasions in which you actually FIT IN . You refuse to accept that. Such positive thinking give you confidence. Consult a psychologist for life coaching or counseling. If you require more of my help in this aspect, Please post a direct question to me in this URL. http://goo.gl/aYW2pR. Make sure that you include every minute details possible. I shall prescribe the needed psychotherapy techniques. Hope this answers your query. Available for further clarifications. Good luck.