Hello, I have a 15 year old daughter who is feeling unloved by me. I admit that I have made mistakes ( I am in recovery from a narcotic addiction ), but my children are my life. I am always available to them and I participate in every aspect of their lives. I do work, but my children have always come first. I have been begging her and her father for years to go to therapy to try to fix our relationship. I have a very contentious relationship with my ex, and the four of us live under the same roof. This is because I am not financially stable and my ex has millions. He gives her everything she asks for, no matter what. He also has a drinking problem and is often irrational. The worst part of the whole thing is that he is constantly validating that I am a horrible person to Paige . Instead of re-assuring that of course I love her, he is projecting such hatred for me through my daughter. This is destroying her. She is ALWAYS rude to me if I get an answer at all, and NEVER speaks even with a respectful tone. She is ALWAYS snarky and if I try to ask her about anything, her answer is, why do you care? Instead of speaking to her about her tone and attitude, my ex shushes me and tells me to stop He will even admit that she is not nice at all to me , but wants to punish me constantly. I think what he is doing is punishing her. How can it be healthy for a Dad to confirm that Mom is a horrible person . There is so much more to this story. I need help. I don t think I can improve the situation myself, which is what I have been trying to do. They BOTH refuse to go to therapy, but Dad thinks that people should not go to Doctor s, especially therapists. What can I do? I am desperate, and alone (my son sees the situation and tries to help, but his Dad is abusive to him if he disagrees with him). He is also 18, and this is not fair to make him responsible for this issue.