Dear Welcome to HCM We understand your concerns I went through your details. I suggest you not to worry much. There are plenty of treatment methods for sexual anxiety. Your girl friend s sexual anxiety is due to the experience she had. She must be made understand that such an experience cannot make her vulnerable, and sex is the basic requirement of any marital relationship and she can trust you. This should take time and you should not hurry. Get her consulted with a psychological counselor. If you require more of my help in this aspect, Please post a direct question to me in this website. Make sure that you include every minute details possible. I shall prescribe some psychotherapy techniques which should help you cure your condition further. Hope this answers your query. Available for further clarifications. Good luck.