Hi,I have a problem that i dont know how to deal with,Ive been with my partner for 5 years and when i met him i was a virgin and was scared of sex and being fingered,However im ok with sex now but i had my child 4 years ago and had to have gas and air just so that the midwife could see how dilated i was,Because i was sooo nervous about some one putting fingers up there.It wasnt a problem pushing the baby out,Im still scared now about being fingered i just cringe up thinking about it.And this prevents me having a smer test because of this.I need some help.I really need this smear test as vagina cancer runs in my family unf.And i need to sort out whats wrng with me in order to have a smear test and enjoy sex more.Help please.Im too embarrased to see a doctor i really am.