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Suffering form severe anxiety

I am a 29 yr old female. I have been suffering from this most of my life. i feel like i have no control over my emotions. when i am upset, i want to think logically but i can t seem to get to that part of my mind because my emotions take control of me. often when i feel wronged in some way, or nervous in a tough situation, i shut down because either i know i will react badly or somehow i feel like i caused it and end up beating myself up about where i failed. i feel very defensive around people. i am afraid of many social settings because i feel like i may overreact or not react at all. sort of like i m constantly in survival mode. situations that other people can handle, i cannot. even when i m very happy sometimes i feel like i have no control of that either. I constantly feel like i have to protect myself and have a difficult time processing things. sometime is takes me hours or days to understand what just happened in a situation. sometimes i relive it over and over to see if there was a better way to handle it, and often wonder why i couldn t get to that solution in the first place. (i am speaking of conflicts). as a child i did suffer abuse (physical, mental , emotional and sexual) and abandonment. i have been in foster care and my parents went to jail for drugs and child abuse . I was diagnosed with ptsd and major depressive disorder . tried medication but it seemed to destroy my inner drive to be rpoductive. I have tried stress mgt, anger mgt, and positive thinking(which helped some) but i cannot seem to shake the feelings of being overwhelmed. most people tell me i m a walking miracle for what i have been through, but i feel inadequate still. often i talk to people about problems i encounter because i can t figure out how to deal with it. it ends up becoming an obsession, and almost always ends badly. it s depressing me (sometimes i can t sleep, eat, concentrate, enjoy my life, etc) and it has ruined many things for me. is there any help for me? or am i never going to be right?
Asked On : Fri, 18 Feb 2011
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Ayurveda Specialist 's  Response
your situation is due to the past that has been there with you .if you will try to forget your past your all problem will be solved .be positive in each &every situation .you have to be positive for your worst situation .dont under estimate your self any time that will develope your self always be happy .
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Psychiatrist Dr. B Raghavendra's  Response

The way you are thinking all seems to be around a basic theme of how the world works, stemming from the childhood experiences. To me this theme appears to be that (I am just guessing here from the description you gave, usually people take few sessions to come to the formulation, so please bear these limitations in mind)

1. I need to please everyone in the world
2. If others are pleased then I am happy
3. I am happy only if I can please others
5. I will be failing others (more than myself) if I don't keep looking for things that will cause me to fail

and so on and so forth

I guess that you may be perfectionistic in nature.

This is not to blame you. This is how you know the world from childhood and that's how you have managed to survive in the world and that's how your brain is now hardwired.

But, since this is not a too good way of dealing with others, it is hurting/distressing you. The best way to deal with this is to try and change how your brain is programmed/hardwired regarding others, world, future and yourself and then ingrain helpful ways of thinking instead of these unhelpful (to you) ways of thinking

Talking therapies will be the most suitable ones to give long term solution to this. Cgonitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT-which deals with your emotions, behaviour, thoughts etc ) and Interpersonal Therapy (IPT) may be the best kind of therapies.

Hope this helps.
Answered: Fri, 18 Feb 2011
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