Hi there ~
There are two things to think about here -
depression and
anxiety. Either ways I understand that it is a difficult phase for you to go through along with your husband. I think that the
stress is taking over you to the point where it is affecting your relationship and work. It would require to seek treatment. Anxiety is the most common psychiatric problem in the world and seeking the help of a qualified
psychiatrist would be the first step in that direction. I hope this helps.
Take care and have a lovely day !