Hi there. The chance for aquiring herpes
virus from a shared cigarette with a 'male' does not change significantly from sharing one with a 'female'! Also since the scab was present, it leads me to believe the vesicles had dried & the infection load was thus at its minimal. It is highly unlikely that you will have contacted the same. The dull ache in your jaw is 99.9% unrelated. If you want to be crystal clear, wait for a week to elapse & check your blood for IgG
Herpes 1& 2...this will tell you for sure if htere has been a 'recent' herpes infection that you may have contracted! Cheers & Good luck!