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Red and swollen penis, not painful, partner had HPV. Help

Ok, so I m not a female. But this is kind of a female related question. I have been dating this girl I met online for about 3 months. We have been sexually active for one month. Having unprotected sex because she is on birth control implant. We did the usual questions before being intimate (# partners, std s ext). She claimed that she had no STD’s and had regular check-ups. I was tested after my last girlfriend (full panel) and was celibate until this current girl. All were negative and I have never had any kind of std before. Anyway, I started noticing the tip of my penis (around the urethra ) is very red and swollen. Not painful but defiantly noticeable. There is however a constant feeling of pressure on the area. Along with general discomfort. This has been going on for about a week. I told her about it and she immediately broke out crying. She tells me that she had cervical cancer due to HPV a few years ago. Had surgery and last pap-smear about 6 months ago came out clean. I was also informed of her true number of sexual partners at that time. Let’s just say it was allot! Of course she didn t tell me because she thought I might run the other way. Probably because I have only been with a few. I asked her about other STD s and she told me that she didn’t have any. At this point I don’t believe anything she tells me so that’s not saying allot. She said that she has never had a blood test done for HSV/ HIV and refuses to get one because she is afraid of blood/ needles. I could go to my doctor and get another blood test but at this point if I got anything it probably wouldn t show up yet. I pretty much figure that I have HPV but none of the symptoms I find online fit my condition. If I do go to the doctor, what should I have them test for. I am currently back in grad school and have no insurance. I don’t want to make this any more expensive than it has to be. I can’t ask my “girlfriend” any more questions on the matter because it was a traumatic experience, it is too painful to remember. She did happen to say she was sorry. I have never had this issue before so I doubt it is due to my laundry detergent or boxer briefs. Honestly I just want to break things off with this girl because of her dishonestly. But I also don’t want to spread it to anyone else and cause someone I care about to get cervical cancer. If I did get HPV, is there anything I can do to get rid of the virus. I am a healthy male with good immune system . If I have to stay out of the dating scene for awhile that would be ok. Any assistance would be greatly appreciated.
Asked On : Sun, 7 Oct 2012
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Welcome to Healthcare Magic,
Your story is very sad and remember before start any sexual relationship ( protected /unprotected) is not enough just “verbal prove”. You both must be checked ( blood works, full STDs panel) , plus ask your partner about older medical exams results to see all history. Also note that many girls who have had in the past any problem ( genital/sexual, etc..) they will hide from you due to many reasons( afraid broke up relationship, ashamed, etc…) that why you just ask your future girlfriend (in future) for older reports and ask her to make right now full check up, if she is healthy with no history then she will be agree, if she will refuse then definitely she hiding something and you must be concerned and avoid such relationship. Afraid about needles/blood is just an excuse. As you don’t trust your current partner , then to calm down your doubts you need full STDs panel and Dermatologist consultation.
I wish you good luck and speedy recovery,
Hope this helps and I have answered your query. If you have additional queries don’t hesitate to ask.
Best Regards,

Answered: Sun, 7 Oct 2012
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