Hi Raghavendra,

Welcome to Healthcare Magic and thanks for your question...

I'm sorry to hear that you have been having a difficult time, esp. with regards to completing your studies. Firstly, the very fact that you have realized that you are having difficulties coping up and have seeked help means that you have taken the first step in solving your problems. I understand that it can be quite dejecting to keep failing repeatedly in something and sometimes this can give an impression that all is lost and that there is no hope. And that feeling can often sap our confidence and leave us with a negative view about anything and everything. It's like seeing the future wearing dark glasses... everything will appear only dark!

What I usually advise my patients is to look only at the 'here and now' and not keep brooding about the past or using it as a yardstick to predict the future.

So, firstly get yourself together and say: Okay, this is the situation I am in... it may be a difficult situation... but what I'm going to do is look forward and find ways to solve this... rather than saying: I have failed so many times before, so I don't think I can succeed. This attitude will give you enough confidence to face any problems that may come your way and if your confidence is high, then your performance is also going to be better.

Also, try to avoid any stressors which may be preoccupying you and hindering your ability to concentrate.

It is also important to talk to someone when you're feeling down and low - it may be a relative or close friend or if necessary, a counsellor or a psychiatrist.

I'm sure you'll do well. All the best...

- Dr. Jonas Sundarakumar
Consultant Psychiatrist