I always get angry very soon. I yell at my family and friends often and there isn’t one person I know whom I haven’t fought with yet. My mom is pretty worried and keeps telling me that it’s going to be difficult after marriage as I’m 22 yrs old now. My mom is quite similar and I’ve always been like this. Lately I feel that some of my friends are avoiding me and now I’m getting worried. Is there anything that I should be doing?
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You should consult psychiatrist for detailed evaluation of your anger. doctor may advise stress management or anger management techniques.
meanwhile you can try self relaxation techniques like Yoga, meditation or self control of anger by reverse counting while angry.
In maost of the cases anger swells from the feelings of inadequecy in self. It more of af frustration against self baout personal status, sense of control, unbale to carry out what ever you want to do, feeling gulity about not taking efforts, learned helpessness etc (you can just go on and on) which is expressed or projected on others. Better take the help of a psychologist to understand the real cause of you anger and also the approriate methodologies of managing it
Anything you should be doing lady? “I’ve always been like this?” is no excuse and absolutely not justifiable. The first step is to understand and accept you have a problem. If you haven’t got anyone around you who hasn’t had a fight with you – I’m sorry that pretty lousy and yes you need to shape up pretty quickly.
Exactly step one in anger management is – accept you have a problem. You sound like the one who had a T-shirt says "My anger management class pissed me off." Jokes apart. Just check out this link
and also this one
Coping with anger requires changing our beliefs and tendencies to judge events and people in our lives. When we feel anger, it is important to stop and look at the situation from another perspective. One of the first things you will realize when you take a step back is that your thoughts about the situation are making you angry, and not the situation itself. Chances are, you will often find a completely different emotion that occurs before the anger. This is an important key to stopping anger before it disrupts any more of your life. Knowing what this underlying emotion is can also help you to find the keys to make rewarding changes in your life.
Once you are aware of the primary emotion that is feeding your anger, the next step is to replace those upsetting emotions with positive internal messages. As an example, perhaps you are frightened by the dangerous way other people drive. Instead of engaging in road rage, simply reframe your thought and remind yourself that you don't have the particular driving habi
I also have a similar problem. But my thing is more towards the irritation. I get very much irritated if people ask me to do anything. I want to do things on my own i dont want any one to order me. I am not able to make out what is the problem with me. I get angry on people who order me some thing. I was not like this. can anyone help me on this?
Try and relax. There is nothing wrong with you and you certainly don't have to see any counsellor. We have control over ourselves and not others. Hence, try to develop control over senses (like the famous drawing of Lord Krishna holding five reins of a horse, representing our five senses). What will help you in this case is: a) define what you want in your professional life. If what you define professionally is driven by your passion/ knowledge, its probably better. b) define what you want in your personal life. If you aim for a peaceful/ loving/ sharing life, it probably would serve you well. There might be instances when its very difficult to be loving/ peacheful etc., but try to minimize these instances and still when confronted with such instances, try to remain silent or get out of the situation and go for a jog or take deep breaths. c) work like an ox towards goals a) and b).
Take care. All the best.
Maybe you could share this response with your parents as well, because it might help them too.
I have a slightly different perspective and I invite comments on them.
Why are we so afraid of anger? Why is it the devil in dark robes always there to get you? The more we try to shun it away, the more it comes back with to strangle us. Guys, anger is constructive. It helps you look at the bigger picture from different perspectives and probably assert a view that is contrary to the popular - but an effective one. Anger is also an emotion that helps you bond tightly and intensely with a situation. Anger towards slavery caused us to raise arms and fight for our freedom.
Here we are talking about outburst - or the manifestation of anger. Rather than correcting the internal or external situation that caused the anger, one wastes the opportunity by carrying out an outburst... Outbursts are impulsive conversations heavily laden with emotion, abuses, lack of logic and high volume. They make one bitter, unpopular and stressed. Obviously, one should control this manifestation...So keep the anger, drop the outb
hi guys,you have lots of emotions. At different times, you may be happy, sad, or jealous. Anger is just another way we feel. It's perfectly OK to be angry at times in fact, it's important to get angry sometimes. But anger must be released in the right way. Otherwise you'll be like a pot of boiling water with the lid left on. If the steam doesn't escape, the water will finally boil over and blow its top! When that happens to you, it's no fun for anyone
I tried two things to avoid this proble.If I got angry I consciously counted from one to ten in my mind before reacting.I found that in some cases it did work out.Idea is self control and if you can find your own technique to delay your reaction time after an incidence, it will help you.I have seen some people keeping spongy balls with a smily made over it.Whenever they are stressed, they keep pressing the ball in their palm.Don't over worry about this problem.
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