Hi, I can understand the distress that you might be facing due to your problem. You seem to be suffering from premature ejaculation as a result of which you might be ejaculating much earlier than required for attaining sexual satisfaction by yourself or your wife. The good news is that your condition is highly amenable to treatment. I would suggest you consult a psychiatrist for treatment for your condition.There can be two types of treatment- with medicines and with behaviour therapy. Both methods can be used simultaneously as well. Medicines include paroxetine taken on a regular basis or dapoxetine on as needed basis. Behaviour therapy will include learning relaxation exercises, sex education and methods like squeeze and distraction which will help in prolonging the ejaculation time. It is highly recommended that your wife participates with you in the behavior therapy sessions for better chances of success of the therapy. Hope this information was helpful. Best wishes.