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How To Handle Children Patiently ?
i wanna know how to keep patience to handle my 3 n half year old daughter coz now a days she is becoming too naughty n dosent listen to any of my words n i instead of handling her patiently shout at her very rudly n sometimes hit her please suggest
Sat, 21 Jan 2012
hi well come to HCM.
all active children are notorious at this age.Got to be patient with them, your
rudness and hitting will give him lot of psychological trauma,and at times can
precipitate psychological changes in child. Learn from your elderly how they have
handled their child and if possible read some literature on child psychology which
will help you.Thanks
all active children are notorious at this age.Got to be patient with them, your
rudness and hitting will give him lot of psychological trauma,and at times can
precipitate psychological changes in child. Learn from your elderly how they have
handled their child and if possible read some literature on child psychology which
will help you.Thanks
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Hi Vasudha
you have not given the details of how you came to th conclusion that your child is naughty. is it just because sho dosent listen to you? First accept that she is just a child. Dont think in the terms as if she is an adult. A child of 3 years usually have the tendency move freely, explore hare all ideas they get and enjoy a sense of freedom because of their ability to move around without support. Accoding to Psychologist erickson During these preschool years, children begin to assert their power and control over the world through directing play and other social interaction. Children who are successful at this stage feel capable and able to lead others. Those who fail to acquire these skills are left with a sense of guilt, self-doubt and lack of initiative. Just get the mind set of enjoying the paly of the child the initiatives it takes, spend time to listen to whatevet she says without quetioning its logic. communicate to her in a langauge she can understand. Treat her like a princess except in situtions or actions which can be harmful to self or others and you can see that she will listen to what you say. If you really feel that she is unmanagble kindly consult a psychologist at the earliest to find out whether its a problem with you or your child and get appropriate remedies
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R.Manoj
Clinical Psychologist
rmanojcp@gmail.com
R.Manoj
you have not given the details of how you came to th conclusion that your child is naughty. is it just because sho dosent listen to you? First accept that she is just a child. Dont think in the terms as if she is an adult. A child of 3 years usually have the tendency move freely, explore hare all ideas they get and enjoy a sense of freedom because of their ability to move around without support. Accoding to Psychologist erickson During these preschool years, children begin to assert their power and control over the world through directing play and other social interaction. Children who are successful at this stage feel capable and able to lead others. Those who fail to acquire these skills are left with a sense of guilt, self-doubt and lack of initiative. Just get the mind set of enjoying the paly of the child the initiatives it takes, spend time to listen to whatevet she says without quetioning its logic. communicate to her in a langauge she can understand. Treat her like a princess except in situtions or actions which can be harmful to self or others and you can see that she will listen to what you say. If you really feel that she is unmanagble kindly consult a psychologist at the earliest to find out whether its a problem with you or your child and get appropriate remedies
Regs
R.Manoj
Clinical Psychologist
rmanojcp@gmail.com
R.Manoj
Hello Vasudha.
Welcome to Healthcare magic.
You are going through a phase which every mother experiences.dont worry, time flies fast and soon your daughter is going to grow from a toddler to a lovely little girl who will be your best confidante.
Please try not to yell or hit her because it wil only make matter s worse , you ll feel more guilty and she wil be more stubborn.You should take your spouse into confidence and maybe he can explain her when she doesn't listen to you.Try positive reinforcement for good habbits rather than punishing the bad habit.As for patience, you have to develop it on your own, thinking that its the best gift you
can give to your darling daughter.
Thanks
Welcome to Healthcare magic.
You are going through a phase which every mother experiences.dont worry, time flies fast and soon your daughter is going to grow from a toddler to a lovely little girl who will be your best confidante.
Please try not to yell or hit her because it wil only make matter s worse , you ll feel more guilty and she wil be more stubborn.You should take your spouse into confidence and maybe he can explain her when she doesn't listen to you.Try positive reinforcement for good habbits rather than punishing the bad habit.As for patience, you have to develop it on your own, thinking that its the best gift you
can give to your darling daughter.
Thanks
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