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How Can Unnecessary Thoughts Due To OCD Be Dealt With?

Before my husband and I married he admitted that he had OCD. When he was young he had compulsions to complete acts or something bad would happen . Even now, when taking sips of water sometimes something doesn t feel right and he will have to repeat the act until it feels okay . He admitted to having unwanted sexual thoughts earlier in life. A few years before we met he was viewing porn regularly and started using prostitutes. He admitted to having cheated on me in order to have sex. We went to counseling and he is committed to the relationship, and states he has never turned back to old behavior. He made an agreement in front of the counselor that if he watches porn or has sex with a prostitue (or other) he must tell me within two hours. However, when we are in public he has a constant looking problem . It has disturbed me to the point that complete healing (from the cheating and other behaviors) can t take place. I am beside myself. I have told him I think it is related to the OCD, but he claims he is not even aware of it. Other times he says if he is diligent of being aware of looking in every moment he can control it, but any distraction will make him forget and go right back to it. It is sad to him because he feels that no matter how well he does there will always be something I am not happy with, and he really has worked hard to deal with his compulsions. The problem for me is that I have started to dread going places with him. We both like to go to the gym, and to travel, and I am losing my joy in doing so because of the constant, repeated glances at other women. I explained it might be normal to look at beautiful people, but many, continual glances are not normal (and not respectful to me). We are married now and many aspects of the marriage are quite wonderful, connecting, intimate and joyful. We both want this relationship to work. Any advice or insight would be greatly appreciated. Kate
Mon, 6 Oct 2014
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Hi,
Thanks for writing to healthcaremagic.

You should consult the same counselor again for this problem if possible.this might be due to of his compulsive phenomena.
CBT with pharmacotherapy will really be quite helpful for him and as well as for your healthy relation.

You did not have mention whether he was prescribed any medications ,is he taking it or not and what kind of sessions took by that counsellor.

In ocd ,initially pharmacotherapy is very helpful and for maintenance ,cognitive and behaviour therapy has an excellent results.

Hope I have answered your query,
Regards,
Dr.Chintan Solanki.
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How Can Unnecessary Thoughts Due To OCD Be Dealt With?

Hi, Thanks for writing to healthcaremagic. You should consult the same counselor again for this problem if possible.this might be due to of his compulsive phenomena. CBT with pharmacotherapy will really be quite helpful for him and as well as for your healthy relation. You did not have mention whether he was prescribed any medications ,is he taking it or not and what kind of sessions took by that counsellor. In ocd ,initially pharmacotherapy is very helpful and for maintenance ,cognitive and behaviour therapy has an excellent results. Hope I have answered your query, Regards, Dr.Chintan Solanki.