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Does Lack Of Sex Cause Depression And Mood Swings?

I am happily married for 2yrs. Despite of few differences we match very well. Everything is normal in my marriage except sexual life. These 2 years we hardly had intercourse. My husband is not very active in sex. He has work pressure, there some family crisis happened too. After returning home from office he gets engaged in gaming or news articles reading or LinkedIn or music. Though, we cuddle a lot, we enjoy all the other activities together. First one year I got really depressed and fustrated about that irregular sexual contact. Even I used to get irritated if he touched me. Then I went to psychiatrist for few sessions. In between we discussed about this issue few times but no properties solutions came out. He found the family issues and Bob pressure responsible for that. And I don t think he really understood about my physical needs. Then we had to live in different cities due to family crisis. And eventually the tension between us ended. Now interestingly I do not really feel the sexual need. 2 or 3 days a week I mustarbate and that s fine for me. I don t actually sexually attracted towards him. However, it s not that I don t love him. We love each other very much. Now I am not really sad that we are sexually inactive. I do not even ask him for sex. One, I don t want any more tension between us; two, I really don t want any sexual contact much. We are having intercourse once or twice in 6 months and even if it doesn t happen then also I am fine. Despite all of these, we are actually happy. We are great friends actually. I adore him. My love for him is more like a motherly love, I guess. Taking care of him and his family and also my family (I am the elder daughter) is my responsibility. But I am little tensed about my own health and the consequences. Whether the sexually inactivity can cause depression or good swings or any deeper effects. I don t want my responsibilities and love ones to get hurt due to that. So should I take any medicine to control my mind or anything? Or I can be relax that it won t have any effect on my mental health?
Mon, 30 Jul 2018
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Hello and Welcome to ‘Ask A Doctor’ service.
I have reviewed your query and here is my advice.

Sex is a normal activity and lack of sex does cause depression and mood swings, that's natural. It looks like your husband suffers from loss of libido. You should have got him treated by now, every person (male or female) today has workload and stress, sexless marriage is not an answer to it. Low libido in men may be due to ED, thyroid dysfunction, low testosterone levels, ageing, depression, diabetes, endocrine disorders, unhealthy stressful lifestyle, lack of sleep, past infidelity (psychological problems), etc. You are fine, you do not require any medicines, just take multivitamins to boost your health. Your husband requires general health check up, medications and help from a marriage counselor/clinical psychologist. Manage stress and venture for a lifestyle change. Don't shy away, get him treated and enjoy life.

Hope I have answered your query. Let me know if I can assist you further.
Regards,
Dr. Nupur K.
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Does Lack Of Sex Cause Depression And Mood Swings?

Hello and Welcome to ‘Ask A Doctor’ service. I have reviewed your query and here is my advice. Sex is a normal activity and lack of sex does cause depression and mood swings, that s natural. It looks like your husband suffers from loss of libido. You should have got him treated by now, every person (male or female) today has workload and stress, sexless marriage is not an answer to it. Low libido in men may be due to ED, thyroid dysfunction, low testosterone levels, ageing, depression, diabetes, endocrine disorders, unhealthy stressful lifestyle, lack of sleep, past infidelity (psychological problems), etc. You are fine, you do not require any medicines, just take multivitamins to boost your health. Your husband requires general health check up, medications and help from a marriage counselor/clinical psychologist. Manage stress and venture for a lifestyle change. Don t shy away, get him treated and enjoy life. Hope I have answered your query. Let me know if I can assist you further. Regards, Dr. Nupur K.