Hello Welcome to healthcaremagic There are two things.. 1. He has a history with gouty arthritis and this can not make effects on sexual desire. But may possible as he get reduced arousal from long term illness. 2. You need to involve him in you more than recent; that means he involves but you aren t satisfied or he has reduced involvement. In this condition there are much more things to make him involve in you As A. Keep him cheers every time when he is with you. Do not demands another thing or do not complain anything. although take care and make yourself helpful to his work and his liking. B. Sometime man is busy and engage with his job or business and this condition he forget as he is at home or with his wife, and this time wife always makes tense atmosphere which reduces mood and attraction too. you can try to avoid these condition. C. When you were intimate, try to seduce him by dressing, by searching different mood creating events. Make changes every time in foreplay and try to search out what he needs and what he like in Sex. i.e. Oral sex, foreplay, sex games, role play or another things and try to use it. 3. Also one more thing as he can take such ayurveda safe medicines which can not be habitual and will improves libido. start the following medicines 1. Suvarna makardhvj ras 2 pills at bed time with milk 2. Tab. Tentex Royal (Himalaya) 1 tab twice a day 3. Ashwagandhavleha 10 grams twice a day. Regards, Dr. Nikul Patel Ayurveda Sexologist Ahmedabad, India lifecareayurveda@gmail.com