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I Am Loosing My Interest In Sex I Have A 2 Year Old Baby, After Her Birth I Start Loosing My Interest But Form Last One Year This Thing Turning Worst Please Help How To Overcome This Issue?
Question: hello doctor,
I am loosing my interest in sex. whenever my husband approaches me I always resist and this thing leads to bitter conversation or rough behavior. I have been married from last 4years, during initial years everything was fine but from the last 1 year these things happen. I have a 2 year old baby, after her birth I start loosing my interest but form last one year this thing turning worst. as I remember I never approaches him and always making excuses to escape. now we intimate ones or twice a month and that is also against my wish. please help.
I am loosing my interest in sex. whenever my husband approaches me I always resist and this thing leads to bitter conversation or rough behavior. I have been married from last 4years, during initial years everything was fine but from the last 1 year these things happen. I have a 2 year old baby, after her birth I start loosing my interest but form last one year this thing turning worst. as I remember I never approaches him and always making excuses to escape. now we intimate ones or twice a month and that is also against my wish. please help.
Brief Answer:
It could be stress
Detailed Answer:
Hello,
I read your query and understand your concerns about ongoing loss of interest in sex.
As I can see that lack of desire affecting your self esteem, sexual life as well as family life indicating gravity of problem and need for intervention.
Although it is never possible to delineate causes of loss of desire but stress could be the possible reason in your case. After the birth of child increased responsibility as a mother often derails the sexual life of many women particularly those who have little support in household activities.
I am not sure whether your husband shares responsibility of taking care of child but there kind of bitterness shown by him after turning down his request for sex I feel there is little understanding on his part. I mean to say that this is the first thing which need correction at earliest level.
Secondly you also need to deal your stress by doing proper stress management. Have atleast one hour for your self to take care of you. During this time you can either visit a part or gym or similar place for exercising. You also need to take care of sleep as proper sleep helps in rejuvenating yourself and helps in management of stress.
The second possibility for lack of sexual desire is hormonal imbalance. This part need to be investigated in guidance of a local sexologist in your city. In case no sexologist is available you can either visit a gynaecologist or psychiatrist for this purpose.
I hope this helps you.
Feel free to write back to me if you have more questions.
Thanks.
It could be stress
Detailed Answer:
Hello,
I read your query and understand your concerns about ongoing loss of interest in sex.
As I can see that lack of desire affecting your self esteem, sexual life as well as family life indicating gravity of problem and need for intervention.
Although it is never possible to delineate causes of loss of desire but stress could be the possible reason in your case. After the birth of child increased responsibility as a mother often derails the sexual life of many women particularly those who have little support in household activities.
I am not sure whether your husband shares responsibility of taking care of child but there kind of bitterness shown by him after turning down his request for sex I feel there is little understanding on his part. I mean to say that this is the first thing which need correction at earliest level.
Secondly you also need to deal your stress by doing proper stress management. Have atleast one hour for your self to take care of you. During this time you can either visit a part or gym or similar place for exercising. You also need to take care of sleep as proper sleep helps in rejuvenating yourself and helps in management of stress.
The second possibility for lack of sexual desire is hormonal imbalance. This part need to be investigated in guidance of a local sexologist in your city. In case no sexologist is available you can either visit a gynaecologist or psychiatrist for this purpose.
I hope this helps you.
Feel free to write back to me if you have more questions.
Thanks.
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Dr. Remy Koshy
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